DD is in Year 5. Since Feb last year she has been experiencing some exclusion from her friendship groups. Not outright nastiness, but just being left out, being told by her friends that they needed 'private chats'. She was not invited on play dates but was always made aware of them by the other girls. I spent a while telling her to ignore them, and play with others, I spoke to the Head and requested that when they set up the new classes for Sept she be put with others to make new friends.
She was much happpier in Sept, but then the new friends she'd made seemed to be swallowed up with the old ones. They took a vote to have her removed from their group of friends. Pastoral support seems sketchy, the Head wasn't interested in meeting me until he heard I was looking elsewhere. We're meeting him tonight.
She is quite an overbearing character, very intense and bossy, but also incredibly sensitive and wears her heart on her sleeve. Yesterday she received a note from a new friend she'd made who wrote 'stay away from me I don't want you in my life".
She doesn't want to move schools but told me last week she wished she had a knife so she Could stab herself. This is typically dramatic of her, I'm not hiding the knives just yet, but I know it's her way of communicating how unhappy she is. She has gone from being confident and surrounded by friends to grateful for anyone showing her any friendship and terrified of unpsetting her peers. Should I move her? She will meet all these girls again at secondary school (where I teach), but I'm starting to think that going in with a new bunch of friends and hopefully her self esteem back will be enough. Has anyone else experienced this type of bullying? I am going to write to the school governors too I think.
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Macsquirt25 · 07/12/2017 07:20
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