A 2dry school pupil attacked a 1ry school pupil, both in uniform but away from school premises. Threatened with a potentially very dangerous 'weapon'. No injuries resulted (by luck!) but the victim was frightened and there were threats of retribution if the victim 'told'. Both schools know and are addressing it.
I know the family. Life is not easy for them. I don't want to make life even harder for them. As I said, the schools are involved, and I really rate highly the 2ry's pastoral care. I'd like to give them a chance to work with this child.
But of course I also worry about endangering my own child.
Your empathy for the other family is admirable OP, I mean that genuinely. However your priority is your child, and only you know what the situation is. I have to say I involved the police when my son was battered with sticks earlier this year and they did the square root of fuck all, but at least it’s meant the bullies have backed off a bit.
I'm not sure why you're putting that responsibility on me,*GreenTulips*. My understanding from MN, from RL, from the news, is that in theory there's lots of support, but that the reality is very different. Besides, the family are almost certainly already in the system.
My 12yo dd was recently subjected to bullying, thankfully not physical but I reported it to the police when the group involved made threats online and she took a screenshot. The police were brilliant and liaised with the head before talking to the ringleaders and their parents. Unfortunately this fuelled the fire and they became more antagonistic towards my dd, nothing obvious but whispering, spreading rumours and laughing at her. In the end dd contacted them and asked if they could clear the air and move on and bizarrely they agreed: they now completely ignore her but have moved on to another victim. For them police involvement had little effect. I hope everything works out for you
Weapon?! I’d phone the police! Perhaps tell them you’re worried as they have problems and you’d prefer them to be handled with care as far as you’re concerned but a weapon and threatening harm is a police matter - what if next time your child is seriously injured or worse
Not is the time to involve the police. The most compassionate thing you can do for the bullying child is to give then consequences and shutting down their behaviour. The police take this stuff seriously, and experience tells me that they are often effective in this situation.