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Anxious about residential trip for son who's been/being bullied in class

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Brandnewbrighttomorrow Thu 05-Oct-17 09:45:15

DS (10) now in year 6 has been bullied in class on and off over the past couple of years - he had health issues when in year 4 and 5 but has been well for all of this year - during that time he's really made huge progress emotionally and physically - his confidence has improved a lot. Outside of school he's a boisterous, happy although sensitive kid, he has no problems making new friends so I'm very much looking forward to him starting high school so he can do that!

In the meantime though most of the kids in his class don't play with him and intermittently there have been bullying episodes where some of the kids won't touch him or anything he's handled in case they catch something. It's just started again and I had a word with his new teacher this morning, she was brilliant and I hope she'll nip it in the bud.

I should point out that the class have had some significant issues in terms of behaviour - to the point where the school called in a team of behaviour therapists to work with them to help them get on better with each other. The therapists said they'd never met a group of kids who had so little in common.

I'm worried about the fact he's going on a residential trip in a couple of weeks. I don't know how to help prepare him for being away with this class - he'll love the course, they do high ropes and canoeing, biking etc. What i'm worried about is how he'll deal with being with those kids 24/7 for five days without any respite. Anyone else been through a similar situation?

MrsOverTheRoad Thu 05-Oct-17 09:52:36

How does he feel about going? Has he voice concerns? In all honesty, I'd be loathe to send him given what you've described...it sounds truly dreadful.

There was a boy in my class at this age who was put through similar..the touch thing...and it was very damaging.

Can you move him to another school?

Brandnewbrighttomorrow Thu 05-Oct-17 10:09:41

I think he'll love the active, physical stuff and will be able to shine in that environment, we've done lots of high ropes and walking trips so physically I think he'll do well.

His new teacher is much more fierce than his previous one - I think she'll do a good job of sorting that class out and going on this trip is going to be a big thing for all of them - a big part of the point of them going is to challenge themselves and to bond as a group. They have a long way to go to be able to do that though.

I've been talking to him about how to address people trying to push him around and suggested that he say 'back off, you don't get to tell me what to do'. He's loath to do it though because he doesn't want to hurt their feelings confused. He's a nicer person than I am (vengeful tiger mum)

Brandnewbrighttomorrow Thu 05-Oct-17 16:41:25

A friend mentioned she knows someone who offers resilience training for kids - has anyone heard of this/had any experience of it? Apparently helps kids develop skills to deal with stressful situations

MrsOverTheRoad Thu 05-Oct-17 18:51:16

Well..I can't help but think that the problem lies not with DS...but with his peers!

Why should he be trained to be resillient when it's his peers who're doing wrong? They should be trained to be nicer! sad

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