What would you do if...

[MuppetMadness]

DD has sensory difficulties and suspected HFA/Asperger's. One of the difficulties is that DD stims, bounces and gets comfort from pushing against things - sometimes these things are people and sometimes it can hurt even though DD is quite small. None of it is malicious or under her control.

It's DD's first year at school. This morning, I noticed that another child was targeting DD and spinning DD round, making DD fall onto the ground which is a very easy thing to do. The other child didn't seem at all bothered by the fact that I was there and had asked DD to come to me. She intercepted DD three times as she tried to get to me.

Eventually, seeing DD wasn't enjoying the 'play', I had to physically go to DD and hold her hand to get her past this child and the other child came immediately to my side telling me that my DD had "pushed against them the other day". I wasn't sure whether it was play or malicious until that point and then it became obvious it was a little bit malicious.

On Monday and Tuesday, DD came home with her coat (unusually) covered in mud, back and front, top to bottom including the hood, so I suspect making her fall might be a new playground game.

The problem is my DD probably has pushed into other children. It isn't something she can control and the school know, accept that and are supportive. They may even potentially be defending DD against complaints from other parents.

What would you do? Say nothing and accept that the children don't understand and a certain amount of this is inevitable? Raise it with the school? Wait and see? Something else?

I have no idea what to do next.

[MuppetMadness]

Does anyone have any ideas?

This must be bad.

[marmiteloversunite]

I think I would be very calm and honest about how you are worrying about playtime and the fact that she came home covered in mud. You seem very rational about it and I think if you approach the teacher and tell them all of the above they will be able to help you. Keeping calm leaves the communication lines open. Good luck!!

I have just been into school to rescue my 14 yr old from a situation which they promised wouldn't happen today and was just about to happen. Parenting is tough!

[MuppetMadness]

Isn't it just. It would be an awful lot easier if people would just be nice to each other. I think I'll do what you suggest.

Hope your 14yr old (and you) are OK and have a restful afternoon.

Thanks, Marmite.

[marmiteloversunite]

No problem! Good luck.