DD is a very sweet natured, popular and pretty girl in year 6. She has generally had a good relationship with the other kids in her class over the past six years (bar one instance of being bullied in year 3 by a girl with behavioural issues who has since left the school).
Last year a new girl ("XYZ") joined the class. She had been badly bullied at her old school and her parents moved her. She seemed like a lovely kid and DD and her hit it off pretty quickly and became good friends.
However, in the past few months, dynamics have changed significantly. XYZ has started low grade bullying of DD that seems to be getting worse. She is telling DD that she is fat and ugly and calling her "brace face" (DD recently got braces). DD is not fat (she is slim and athletic) and objectively she is very pretty - everyone tells us so and we tell her as well. DD is also one of the first girls in the class to start hitting puberty and the other girl is making fun of her breasts.
The sad thing is that DD's old best friends are now friends with XYZ and, while not saying anything mean to DD, are standing there when things are being said. I also get the impression that they are taking about DD negatively behind her back - she certainly thinks they are.
It is also a bit complicated by DD having a crush on a boy in the class (a bit young for all that, I know, but it all appears very innocent) and XYZ has moved in to claim as her "boyfriend". DD keeps a daily dairy where she records all this (we have read it without telling her obvious) and it is so sad to see how she is feeling about herself ("fat, ugly") and the pain she is feeling about being picked on. She has also confided a little in my DP without giving all the details.
We are not sure what to do. We don't know the XYZ mum very well but she strikes me as the type of person that would be appalled by her daughter's behaviour, given how she was bullied herself. We are worried that if we mention it to her, she will address it with her daughter and that will spark even more negative behaviour towards our DD. Our DD has also sworn my DP to secrecy and we don't want to blow that trust - especially as we want her to be able to turn to us in teenage years when problems will potentially be more difficult.
Any thoughts on how we should handle this? Thanks
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Thisdoesnotgeteasier · 25/01/2017 10:53
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