I'm not sure how to handle the situation.
DD is in P3 (year 2 equivelant). This year the classes have been shifted around and this boy is in her class for the first time. DD is one of the smallest in her year and this boy is almost twice her height and about 3 times her weight. She has been telling me about incidents with this boy for the past couple of months and from observing at drop off and pick up times (as well as birthday parties) I can see myself that his behaviour is a bit boisterous.
There have been too many incidents to list them all so I will just list a few recent ones.
Last week DD said he walked up to her at lunch, looked her straight in the face and tipped up her lunch tray so it fell on the floor / spilled over her (she had just collected lunch and was walking to a table). When the lunch monitors asked what happend DD told them but he said it was an accident so nothing was done.
A couple of weeks back I noticed DD had a large bruise on her chest and 2 smaller finger shaped bruises on her arm. When I asked her what happened she said at playtime this boy grabbed her arm and spun her round then punched her in the chest. He did get in trouble for that but the school didn't inform me of the incident.
On Monday DD went to school with her brand new shoes and by collection time they were all scraped on the front of one toe. Now DD is generally not one to wreck shoes so I asked her if she had fell (I was worried the shoes might have been too big and causing her to trip etc) but she said that this boy had slammed her against the wall and her shoes had scraped, she said her knee was also sore and grazed from it (it's also bruised) Again she told the playground monitor what had happened and this boy said he was just play fighting and it was an accident so nothing was done.
Now I do understand this boy has ASD so he doesn't understand the same way other children do. I know the school are working with him and his behaviour (he gets a well done sticker on the days he doesn't hit anyone). I have spoken to the teacher about it and she has moved DD to another table so they no longer sit together. I also understand he is like this with several of the other children and not just my DD and since starting this year 2 parents have moved their children to another school as this boy was terrorising them. I have spoken to these parents recently at a birthday party so I know for a fact they moved school because if this boys behaviour and the lack of action taken by the school.
What do I do now? This is knocking DD's confidence, she often doesn't want to go to school. I've started to keep a log of the incidents myself but not sure what, if anything we can do. I've told DD to avoid him but she said he seeks her out and follows her around so she sometimes will just spend playtime in the girls toilets rather than the playground as he isn't allowed in there. I should mention we are in Scotland as that might make a difference as to what procedures I can follow.
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