Adult mother bully at the same birthday party

[Marielew01]

I made friends with this woman (25) at a nursery both our children attended last year. Long story short we got quite close quickly and I thought I could trust her. She was due to be married but the person in her family who promised her the money let her down, so I supported her with everything, I stupidly introduced her to my best friends to also help. Well since the wedding and a genuine mistake in wrong text sent to the wrong person, her (was supposed to be sent to my cousin in a family dispute) she is destroying my friendships and those of my little ones best friends. She is bulling a 4 and a half year old via my friends and little ones friends. She's firmly imbedded herself between us all. Little one has emotional distress problems and she is using this to stop her being in the same place as little ones friends as she doesn't want her daughter anywhere near mine. Little ones best friend is having a birthday party next month and she's been invited and I know she'll turn up with her bully husband to make her daughter centre of attention and also she won't hesitate making my little one feel awful. This woman has turn out to be vile and an adult who bullies to get her own way no matter what age the receiving person is. Please advise I don't want little one suffering at her hands through her friends anymore.

[Tamarandave]

There seems to be two interconnected issues at play here. Firstly, there is your relationship with this lady which has gone bad. Secondly there is your concern that this lady will bully your daughter. She probably does so to cause upset to you.
Rest assured however that just as you have discovered this lady's true colours, so other people will too in due course. In the meantime, if going to this party will upset you, then dont go at all since even if your daughter wont be upset by anyone else, she will be upset because you are upset and therefore nothing will be gained by the experience. Have your own fun party at home instead.

[Marielew01]

Thank you hon