First time on mumsnet form, but I am at my wits' end.
My son is in year 1 (just about to turn 6) at an all boys pre-prep school in London. Happy at school, but there is ONE boy in the class who is really getting up my nose. He has some behavioural issues in my opinion. Mainly he is very into "play" fighting which is often unwanted by whomever he pounces on (usually my son) and it often ends up in more aggressive fighting. We had him over for a playdate recently and my mother in law and I between us couldn't control him, and I literally had nightmares that night.
Unfortunately his peg in the cloakroom is next to my son's and I can't get in and out of school without my son getting pounced on, put in a headlock, having a cap shoved over his face, getting pinned up against as wall, and today (when my son tried to defend an unwanted "assault") thumped in the arm twice. All the boys playfight a bit but this kid crosses the line and usually tries to blame the other person. He is also a bit naughty in other regards (cheating at party games, etc! although that's the least of my concerns!)
I finally emailed the teacher without naming names. She said she'd talked to the whole class about "playfighting" (if you can even call it that) but that very afternoon I saw the same boy provoking someone else, it got ugly and the OTHER boy got yelled at by his nanny.
After today's thumping incident, which brought my son to tears (and he's NOT a big crier), I marched back to his classroom and told the teacher what had happened. I am slightly beyond caring whether I sound like an over-protective parent or "tell tale" as I've had it up to here with this child!
What makes it awkward is that a) I seem to be the only one not being terribly diplomatic/polite/"boys will be boys"/British about it because b) this boy actually LIKES my son, which I think makes him a target for attention and c) I am or was quite friendly with his mum -- though dread it when she asks for playdates as my son doesn't like all this man handling and roughness. She is otherwise very nice, BUT she does little or nothing to discipine her child and I don't think that's going to change even if I have word with her. The child also has some great qualities and seems quite bright. Personally I think he needs counselling or something!
How far should I press the school to intervene? Should I talk to another parent in confidence? I'm sick of dealing with this nightmare every time I drop my son off or pick him up and we cross paths with this kid.
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HWest1832 · 27/11/2014 19:44
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