DD 10 has had a terrible Year 5, being bullied by a group of girls who were previously friends and now turned on her. We tried all the normal things like talking to the school but it just made things worse, as the girls initially apologised but then ramped up the bullying out of sight and became much more subtle about it. DD begged me not to say anything more and I agreed as I was worried that DD would stop confiding in me and would become even more isolated. Eventually, we just rode it out ... DD and family didn't react to the horrible things that were happening (e.g. main bully was not only refusing to let DD play in her group but also preventing other children from playing with her). Eventually we came out the other side and things improved. School is now OK more-or-less with the odd blip.
I've come to the realisation that I can't really solve DD's problems for her and neither can the school. I need to use this time to help DD build up the confidence and strategies to fix things herself for the next time this comes up. Any ideas??? I want a book or something that gives really practical advice so the next time someone, for example, says she can't sit down in the lunch hall because that seat's being saved, (and so is that one, and that one, and that one) - she has a strategy to deal with this. any advice gratefully received.
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auburnmum · 28/06/2013 12:12
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