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Anyone else doing "don't offer, don't refuse"?

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bobbybob · 17/06/2005 07:06

Ds is 28 months. So far longest he has gone is 24 hours, mostly just missing 1 feed in 4.

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chipmonkey · 17/06/2005 14:03

I did this with ds1 and ds2, but they were much younger, about 12 months, and both used to bottles/cups. They stopped looking for it quite quickly, in a matter of 2 days or so.

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bobbybob · 17/06/2005 21:33

Anyone else?

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Socci · 17/06/2005 21:34

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Socci · 17/06/2005 21:35

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serenity · 17/06/2005 21:44

I am, sort of. DD is 19 months and I don't refuse her first thing in the morning, but I do try and distract her if she asks during the day. If she starts trying to pull my top up then 9 times out of 10 she's just thirsty and has lost her cup, so if I find it for her she's satisfied with that.

I hoped she'd forget about it when I was in hospital a couple of weeks ago. Dh said that she didn't seem bothered by not BFing, but within 5 minutes of me getting home she'd settled herself on my lap and latched on - she was very determined.

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bobbybob · 17/06/2005 22:49

My parents are here and for the first 24 hours his routine was so stuffed and he was so excited that he forgot.

He only has 2 feeds a day so distraction would feel like refusing to me - maybe because he is older. He asks very nicely and if it's not convenient he says "I wait here" and sits down until I am ready.

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hunkermunker · 17/06/2005 22:51

Aww - BobbyBob, I love Bob! He's such a sweetie!

Doing don't offer don't refuse with DS, but all it means is it's dropped to morning and night and he's fed some more today (about five times) because he's been a bit off colour (teeth, temp) and not eaten much. TBH I'm very pleased he still breastfeeds as I'd have had a much crosser baby on my hands otherwise!

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bobbybob · 19/06/2005 07:47

Went away for the weekend so that was 24 hours, then tonight he has gone to bed without asking. We will see what the morning brings. I like this way of doing it - I am letting him choose, rather than setting an arbitary goal to stop.

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bobbybob · 19/06/2005 23:05

He went 36 hours and then ended up in A&E unable to breathe in the middle of the night (not connected) I'm afraid I almost forced him to have a feed to get the antibodies.

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