What age do most dc's stop having any milk from a bottle? And at what age would you start getting judgey about it?

[mangosTrickyrice]

Judgey about someone else's kid with a bottle, I mean?

I've just realised I have no idea what would be considered a normal range for giving up bottles.

[Seona1973]

dd went onto cups for milk around 15 months, ds was off bottles by 10 1/2 months as I started introducing the cup a bit earlier with him. I think mine swapped quite early though.

[olivo]

oficial advice is 1 year.
my dd still had just the one at 20 months.
judgey? personally at about 2 1/2 but i was embarrassed about my dd at 20mo!

[olivo]

forgot to say - she took everything else from a cup from 6 mo!! she just wouldn't give up her early morning bottle!

[allaboutme]

Officially its 12 months.
Both mine were off bottles and onto beakers by about 18 months
I wouldnt be judgy at all tbh, unless the child was out in public drinking from a bottle.
A friends 4yo still has a bottle at bed time. Its his comfort thing and he brushes his teeth after so harm whatsoever imo

[Bessie123]

my dd was about 10 or 11 months when she stopped using a bottle. I would secretly judge from about a year.

[seeker]

Why on earth would anyone be judgey about milk in a bottle unless it was all the time and wandering about with it?

Anything BUT milk in a bottle, I would be judgy about at practically any age!

[colditz]

I'd maybe start judging if the child took it to school. More because the child would get teased.

I have a personal belief that taking comfort objects away because of parental embarrassment is beyond the pale.

[colditz]

I judge very very strongly a parent who will take something away because they are embarrassed, because they feel the 'should'. It gives the message to the child that what they need isn't as important as what everyone else thinks they should have.

It's Wrong.

[VirginiaLoveGlove]

i really couldn't get judgey about bottles or dummies or whatever. children are rushed to be independent too often and this is another symptom of that. I know the official guidance and why but I really don't see any emotional benefits from rushing children to grow up in any manner of way.

Occasionally there may be a real concern about a child and bottles but usually it is the symptom not the cause of a larger problem in the parenting relationship. And most of us are unfit to hold an opinion on it.

[VirginiaLoveGlove]

sorry, "often" should read "soon".

[VirginiaLoveGlove]

"I'd maybe start judging if the child took it to school."

family lore has it that my older brother came home at break time to get his bottle of milk. we lived across the road from the school and he just pelted out the gate the first 2 days. mum encouraged him to stay at school after that. he is now a well adjusted man in his mid 40's.

[SCARYspicemonster]

My DS still has his milk in a bottle at bedtime and in the morning in bed with me. He's 2 1/2. Judge away - I couldn't give a shit

[starwhores]

ds1 & 2 were about 12 months, dd was near three (only for night time from 15 months).

[Aranea]

I can't really see a reason to get judgey, exactly, but I must admit to being taken aback by a nearly 4yo having a bottle of milk on a playdate recently.

[mangosTrickyrice]

Dd is nearly 3 and still has a bottle before her nap and before bed, and sometimes in the morning as well, so well past the usual age from these responses.

Colditz makes a good point - I asked the 'judgey' question because I'm not in the UK and can't see what's considered 'normal'. (We can get away with all manner of weirdness here - e.g. blw - and people assume it's because I'm a foreigner and shrug their shoulders.)

So, do I leave her to decide she doesn't want the bottle any more, or do I (gently) try to discourage her?

[JohnnieBodenAteMyHamster]

I don't know about 'most DCs', but I'd be Miss Judgy-Pants beyond 12 months.

[ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave]

When I was in my mid-teens there was a short-lived fad at my school for drinking out of babies' bottles (out of bottles sold as being for babies, that is; we didn't mug random passing babies for their bottles). So I don't think I'm in any position to get judgey...

[seeker]

Why, Jonnie?

[chibi]

of 6 friends who used bottles, at least half still give one at bedtime, our dc are all 2.4 years old.

i personally avoid judging these days as it has turned around to bite me on the bum more times than i'd like.

hth

[JohnnieBodenAteMyHamster]

Because I am my mother's daughter and my gran's grand-daughter, seeker!

[seeker]

All the more reason to anaylze your judgments!

[4madboys]

well i am bottlefeeding my youngest who is 18mths he has 3 or 4 bottles of milk, one in the morning, one at lunch and one before bed, sometimes one before his afternoon nap.

unless we are late up in the morning he has his first snuggled up in bed with me, same with his bedtime one if we are late he has it in the pushchair on the dash to school

tbh i bfed my elder three children until they were 3 and half years old, infact one was almost four, so i see my little one having a bottle in the same way, its his comforter, he has a cuddle with me and his special snuggly blanket when he has his milk, no diff from the elder three with their bfeeding

i wont let him walk around having a bottle, tho tbh he has never tried, he likes having his cuddles.

its his comfort, he eats well and is a happy and content little boy who sleeps well, so who am i to take away his comfort just because some people frown upon it?

[TheProvincialLady]

My DS has recently turned three and if he wakes crying in the night (rarely these days)he wants water in a bottle and he gets it. Judge away. I get fairly judgemental myself, about people who don't seem to want their children to be comforted by anything.

[hazeyjane]

I couldn't give a toss about how old someone elses child is when they stop having a bottle, different strokes for different folks.