christiana, sounds like your dd is going through a needy stage at the moment, which could just as easily be a normal behavioural stage as anything else. The 'unhappy, desperate' feeling you get from her sounds difficult, but she may well just recover from it without you ever getting to the bottom of it.
The foremilk hindmilk imbalance thing is often massively misunderstood and over-stated but very generously producing mothers sometimes find help deliberately damping down their supply by feeding on one side only within the same period of 3-4 hours or so - if there are no weight gain or milk supply issues with your dd then you could try this for a day or so.
Christina how are you getting on with the nappies.
I recently had this problem with my lo, went on for about 2 weeks.
Asked advice, but nobody could really help.
I tried to feed a couple of feeds on one side and tried to ensure that the baby reached the hind milk. Burped baby frequently. Tried feeding the baby upright on the chest to help the fast flow of milk.
It didn't do anything for a number of days. Baby was gaining weight. HV no advice.
One evening I decided to express one breast completely. I expressed a few hours after baby was in bed. Next feed in the early hours I fed on the other breast. If the baby hadn't enough from that breast fed again when lo woke up in the morning. I continued with this for a couple of days and noticed in the early nappies a sudden change of colour.
Now I feed one breast per feed unless lo feeds a long time and then I feed on the other side. Nappies have changed back from green to yellow. No idea why really. Noticed that sometimes lo does gag on breast from fast flow of milk, I tend to pull off and let the flow stop and put baby back on and wind the babies lot. I have found that I haven't had a problem since. Hope this might help ??
Sounds pretty similar to my baby - he's very demanding and doesn't want to be held all the time, but he certainly wants your attention all the time. He also won't lay on a playmat etc. I have to move him from place to place every 10 minutes. He's a whinger! He also wants to feed a LOT! I find getting out of the house helps - if he's out and about in his buggy or the car, I seem to have a much better day with him, distraction maybe? I also had the green poo issue, at one point he was going 8 or 9 times a day and it looked like bright green pesto! I was really worried and even mentioned it to my GP, but it just went away on it's own after a couple of weeks, x