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Blazing row with partner during a feed

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deliakate Mon 07-Sep-09 14:31:36

I lost it on Sat am and shouted at my hubby just after 6 week old son had latched on and started to feed. I am killing myself now with guilt because my baby seems to be jumpy at little things, and crying a lot - he is not the little chilled out angel he mostly was before. Whilst I was shouting, he went very quiet and still.

I know I cannot let that happen in front of him again.... but
I'm wondering if this one incident will affect him greatly. Hubby says it should not as a one off, but if it became a pattern it definitely would,..... I cannot think straight now for the guilt and worry that our bond has gone. Have you ever gotten angry with anyone in front of your baby?

Stereophonic Mon 07-Sep-09 14:48:18

yes dh and I have argued a few times in front of ds (16 months) and I always feel really guilty afterwards. Don't give yourself a hard time, you're only human after all and these things happen. Your DH is right I think, a one off won't affect him, just try not to let it happen again. As I said though, I've been angry with DH a few times in front of ds and while I try not to should he definitely picks up on it. Don't feel bad hugs

Stereophonic Mon 07-Sep-09 14:50:15

Try not to SHOUT that should have been!

What I'm trying to say is that I know it's not good, but I've done it too - when you're tired and stressed arguments happen. Don't beat yourself up.

Boodlerpoop Mon 07-Sep-09 20:19:38

I laughed at something on TV the other day while bf, ds jumped a mile and cried for ages afterwards. (Fair enough, it was more of a loud snort/yelp than laughing)Don't think this should affect him, babies change all the time. Perhaps you are looking out for signs it has affected him because you're feeling guilty? If it makes you feel any better, I was laughing at South Park! I am a bad mommy for exposing ds to this!

littleduck Mon 07-Sep-09 20:21:14


Don't beat yourself up, your DH is right, as a one off it won't have done your little boy any harm. My DD (now 18 weeks) went through a very unsettled period at 6 weeks which I believe is a classic time for growth spurts and that kind of thing, definitely made my daughter cry much more than usual, so perhaps it is down to that.

Please try not to worry, your little boy will be fine


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