is it worth doing a dreamfeed?(30 Posts)
Hi all, my DS is 15 weeks and between 8 and 11 weeks slept from 7:30pm to 4am had a breastfeed then back until maybe 6 or 7. Suddenly at 11 weeks he started waking in the night more to feed. I assumed it was a growth spurt but its carried on! His bedtime has moved forward to 6:30pm as he was getting overtired and as the last 3 nights hes been overtired at this time now I suspect I need to move it to 6pm. Last feed is often 5pm with a top up as he goes to sleep. I am trying to arrange his days so that his last fed is actually at bedtime.
Trouble is hes still waking a few times to feed. Roughly he wakes at anytime from 9-11pm then once hes done one feed its every 3 hours on the button until morning. He does seem to take a decent feed the majority of the time overnight and if we try to settle him without feeding he gets in a right lather. He goes back to sleep straight after usually. He will still occasionally go until 1-2 am but again, after hes woken once he never lasts longer then 3 hours. He feeds 3 hourly in the day and I've been trying to get him to have as much as poss at each daytime feed.I've tried giving him more and les at each night feed but it makes no difference. i was wondering if I tried giving him a dreamfeed at 10pm ish whether people thought it would help him then go a longer stretch as he wouldnt have had to break his one decent long sleep IYSWIM. Or am I just making it worse as it will encourage more night time feeding and therefore less in the day?
I can't answer your questions, but I swear by dreamfeeds
Swear by it myself. At his age there is only so long he can go without feeding. I used to cluster feed ds before he went to bed, and the dream feed would then see him through. You can always reduce it slowly when you want to eliminate it. Good luck.
I've done this with both DSs.
DS1 slept through from about 6wks - sure it helped.
DS2 - I reckon it helps, but he hasn't slept though (midnight to 6am) more than a handful of times since birth (now 5.5 mo). Yuck.
Had exactly same trouble as you! Some MNers ardently recommended dreamfeeding and I haven't looked back. You don't actually need to wake your lo - so you don't encourage night-time waking. If you don't put on any lights and don't make any noise, then baby doesn't wake up! It's actually come to be my favourite bf of the day cos it's calm and sweet and quiet. I say definitely go for it! But be warned, it may take a few days to work - it took us about a week of df'ing for ds to sleep through (7 til 7, df at 11ish). Good luck, and let us know how you go!!
sounds interesting - so what do you do? Do you just pcik up the baby and place them to the breast?
Sorry - but not heard of it before,
Never heard it called a dream feed before but, being a devotee of Aunty Gina, I always woke ds at 10pm for a feed. He would then go through until 2am and then wake at 7am to start the day. It was also a good way to encourage me to go to bed at a decent time as I am a bit of a night owl by habit.
well, last night I tried it at 10pm. He didnt wke but took a bit of trying to get him to latch on and then he only had about 8 minutes. I tried again and the other side but his little lips were firmly clamped shut! Looked quite funny actually. Anyho, he then woke at 1:40 and again at 4:20 then up for the day at 6;10am so no change yet. I'll keep at it tho as at least I know hes fed when i go to sleep so at least I can get 3 hours. I was going to bed at 10:30 sometimes, only to be woken at 11 which is seriously depressing!
I know we all say 'keep the lights low' etc, but when introducing a dreamfeed you may need to be quite assertive at first, in order to get him to fill his boots. If his sleep pattern is quite entrenched, and he's used to being in a very deep sleep at this stage, it may take some more effort to persuade him to chug away.
It may seem bonkers but if he's really sleepy it's worth switching on lights, legs out of babygro etc to wake him up (I did this with both of mine initially), at least for the first side. Then when you switch him over, you could lower lights and wrap him up again so he's warm and more likely to slip back to sleep when you put him down. Before long you will be able to feed him without him really waking up.
He may be waking out of habit later on, so if you can, wait and see if he really rouses/cries before feeding him at 1.40. He might settle himself. You never know.
We still do it for my ds at 10 months!
He has his tea at about 5 then doesn't want much milk generally at bedtime (7.30) so we give hiom a bottle at about 10.30 when we go to bed and this sees him through until at least 7 most mornings. If he doesn't have it he does wake up in the night. It's no trouble though, he barely wakes up and goes straight back to sleep afterwards and it's lovely to have a little snuggly cuddle with him before bed. He's on bottles now which might make it easier - not usre.
Dreamfeed with ds1 helped but he would only take ebm. I think its becasue when asleep easier to suck on a bottle than latch on etc.
we stil ldream feed jessica and she is 10 months - she took 5oz at 10pm last night, and when i went up at 12.30am i offered her some more, and she sunk 8oz!
Slept through until 7.30am!
I tried for the first time last night. At midnight, I fed her for about 10mins, put her back down, she 'snuffled' for about 10 mins. But she still woke at 4am for a feed. will leave it tonight but will try again tomorrow.
it was interesting how she fed when asleep - bizarre
my babe has always fed while asleep.... you just tease her lips with the bottle and she starts sucking!
it is quite amazing - sorry but do find this baby thing rather wonderful
well, second night. took an age to get him to latch on but he fed for 10mins again at 10pm. No go on having anymoe despite some serious cheek tickling etc. However, he then slept thru till 2:30 then up at 6 as usual and fed again then so a definite improvement. I will persevere!
Tipex, let me know how it works out. I was going to give it ago tonight - but I'm so tired - i'm scared to wake her up as I really need to get a couple of hours sleep, so going to crash out in a mo.
But i'm really interested in this dream feeing thing, so really interested in how you get on.
It's worth a go. If you are b/f they can smell the milk (this may apply with formula too, anyone?) and if they are hungry the idea is they will just feed. You are the most comforting, lovely place for a baby so they are not too likely to be really stimulated by being gently picked up and offered a breast. It definitely works for us. If they do wake up, keep it all v low key so they don't get any time-to-party cues and that included no eye contact.
Off to do mine now - good luck to anyone trying it!
I'll just add my four penneth and say it worked for us when dd was younger, she started to go from 11-6am, then 10-6am, bliss!
Jess lies in her cot, we dont lift her, jsut offer the bottle.
She would only take 4/5oz to start with but the last few nights we have heated the dream feed bottle (she always had room temp before) and she will now sink 8oz and sleep through. She has NEVER slept through before so we are dead happy.
I dont care if i still have to dream feed her now she is 10 months old, for me, its getting her to sleep through the night and once that is established we will bring the dream feed back by 15 minutes a night until she has the bottle before bed.
Do keep going as it will save a lot of hassle in the long run, wish i had done it earlier tbh!
you do sit her up a bit don't you tho, just remember it being bad for their lungs, if its a formula feed, for them to lie flat, bits can get in apparently, thread about it somewhere?
I managed to get through the night with co-sleeping. Slept with my dd next to me and just bf on demand through the night. Didn't have to get up so I could dream feed as well as little one. Best wishes.
Frizbe - nope - never have sat her up..... oh my god, BAD MUMMY ALERT..... HELP!
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