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quick straw poll- did nightweaning improve DC's sleep?

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hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 09:49:37

Have read the Dr Jay Gordon method and we've made the decision to do it next week. I'm a bit worried that it won't actually improve DS's sleep though...
Just yes or no is fine, details welcome too though!
Many thanks

WoTmania Sun 30-Aug-09 11:07:28

DS1 No, He oinly started regularly sleeping thorugh at 3 and a bit.
DS2 Sort of.
DD is only 6 months so not applicable

Purely anecdotal but a couple of friends have night weaned/weaned completely at 12-18 months and regretted it as bang goes a nice easy way to soothe them at night.

FlamingoBingo Sun 30-Aug-09 11:11:00

No - we just had to supplement it with another drink in the night, which was a pain in the bum. Especially as with DD1, she would only accept squash and not water as a substitute angry. Gave up in the end and went back to bfing in the night. Her sleep naturally improved age 4 (which, I now know, is the natural age for children to start sleeping through).

DD2 still wakes once or twice a night, but goes to sleep after a cuddle easily - she's 4.5.

VulpusinaWilfsuit Sun 30-Aug-09 11:15:17

Yes. 3 days of screaming, DH in, me with earplugs. Then slept through reliably every since. Can't remember exactly but was about 15mo. Now 2 and still feeding before naps

mawbroon Sun 30-Aug-09 12:34:34

No, it didn't the first couple of times I tried. It was very clear that he wasn't ready to night wean, so we went back to feeding and he was back to normal behaviour wise during the day.

Then on attempt three, it did make him sleep better. But, he was 3.5yo at the time, and it took a good few weeks for his sleeping to improve. I took from this that he was ready, and we haven't fed at night since (this was almost 5months ago)

PinkTulips Sun 30-Aug-09 13:27:49

dd, no, got worse

ds1 i never really night weaned properly but 'discouraged' feeding between 12 and 5 and he slept better then but became impossible to get down at the beginning of the night, i had to spend hours up there and he'd generally end up just coming straight into our bed.

ds2 is only 6 months so not old enough even if i were planning to do it again, which i'm not.

KingRolo Sun 30-Aug-09 13:31:06

Yes, at 10 months old.

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 17:52:38

Thanks so much for your responses. You've mainly confirmed my worst fear which is that it won't improve his sleep!

However, I really feel like he's ready because he sleeps through occasionally and he settles in just a few minutes for his dad. And, in our house, bfing in the night is no longer the quick fix it was as once I go into him he wants to feed for hours.

I'm going to go for it, if it feels wrong or doesn't work I can always pull back a la flamingo and mawbroon

Any tips? Aside from earplugs....

Rhian82 Sun 30-Aug-09 18:12:56

Yep, massively, at about six and a half months old. Week or so of crying, then he went from waking every couple of hours to sleeping from 7pm-5/6am almost every night.

FiveGoMadInDorset Sun 30-Aug-09 18:34:31

No. Weirdly putting them in the same room sorted out DS's sleeping

PrincessToadstool Sun 30-Aug-09 19:23:40

Ye-es, you might not want to know the details though. How old is your DS?

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 19:27:06

He's 14mo. Come on, prepare me for the worst...

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 19:28:25

FGMID I don't think that's wierd, I'm sure the company of a sibling would be very reassuring in the night. Maybe I'll borrow my neice for a few weeks.

PrincessToadstool Sun 30-Aug-09 19:58:23

Oh ok, I imagined a younger baby DS was about 16/17 months, but night-weaning also coincided with putting him in his own room. Anyway it was fine, he woke a few times for a few nights. DP offered water - we agreed to take it very gently and had DS become distressed we would have given milk in a cup but he never did get that upset.

I still fed in the mornings for a bit which was nice and I felt much less resentful after a night of peace, IYKWIM. SAdly he did lose interest shortly after but I believe the timing was right for us

Have read lots of positive stuff about Jay Gordon especially around that age, I don't think my DS would have been ready anytime before about 14 months but after that it was like we were disturbing each other.

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 20:07:58

Yeah we really feel like he's ready, it's almost like the availability of bf stops him from going back to sleep because he doesn't want to let go.
I'm dreading the tears though, it breaks my heart to think of him confused and upset. I'm a wimp and I know it! We've got to do something though, DH and I are at breaking point with it and I'm becoming a danger on the roads....
So did you stop feeding to sleep at bedtime too? I'd intended to carry on with that but cut out the middle of the night feeds.

morningpaper Sun 30-Aug-09 20:12:47

I weaned mine at 18 monthsish and it made no difference to sleep

Going to SCHOOL helped hmm

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 20:29:05

Oh fuck, really? I'm going to feel very bad indeed if all the nights of tears amount to nothing but a pissed off toddler!

PrincessToadstool Sun 30-Aug-09 20:36:39

Oh well I stopped feeding to sleep from about 12 months, as he took longer and longer... so from then to about 15 months I'd feed him after his bath, then DP would dress him and take a small amount of milk in a sippy cup with him upstairs and put DS to bed.

So in your shoes I'd feed to sleep for now if you are both happy with that.

Oh the other thing we did, not sure if relevant, but we made a big fuss of moving DS's cot into his room (had been set up as a co-sleeper next to my bed with the side down - but he was never actually in it once I'd gone to bed hmm) and he found it really exciting, showed him his new room with teddies and books etc, I think that made the transition easier. So maybe a new toy for his cot, or something? Whatever works really.

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 20:54:00

Ok thanks so much princess.
DH works long hours and has DS one evening a week whilst I work soooo we're only both at home one evening a week. If he were around more he could do more bedtimes, DS always sleeps better after DH has put him down.
I like the big fuss idea, he's just of an age where he can get excited about stuff.

PrincessToadstool Sun 30-Aug-09 20:59:51

If you want to think ahead to dropping the bedtime feed maybe choose a week when DH has a lighter workload, or even at Christmas if a) he is off and b) that's not thinking too far ahead?

Depends what your goal is really - I was very torn between wanting DS to self-wean, and feeling quite fed up of it all. But that extra sleep helped so much!

Grendle Sun 30-Aug-09 21:22:04

With ds night weaning made no difference to his sleep. Dh ended up co-sleeping with him regularly in the spare bed, as I was pg and too knackered. He was around 21 months and in his own room (at least at the start of each night!).

With dd, she sort of night-weaned by agreement very early on in this pregnancy, so she was around 19 months. She was co-sleeping, and I suddenly found (accidentally) that a cuddle would settler her almost immediately with no need to offer a breastfeed. She continued to wake repeatedly for a couple of weeks, as had been the pattern since about 16 months when she'd started waking 3-4 times a night, and then started sleeping through, though still in bedside cot or our bed. She's slept fairly well ever since and has started transitioning to her own room since just before her birthday.

MrsMerryHenry Sun 30-Aug-09 21:23:17

Yes, at 9 months old. It lasted a week. Then he started teething. GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Six months later he was sleeping through the night again.

MrsMerryHenry Sun 30-Aug-09 21:25:18

Never heard of Jay Gordon, who he?

Actually, don't bother. I have enough parenting experts coming out of my ears at the moment!

hairymelons Sun 30-Aug-09 21:38:12

DS is constantly teething or ill so that's why this week is a golden opportunity, he's on top form for once.
Normally don't have much time for parenting experts but the night weaning advice just seems really, well, reasonable.
I think I want DS to self-wean but I'm so self-conscious about the fact I'm still BF. All my pals who BF babies born after DS have stopped and I feel like the freaky extended BFing lady. But am happy to continue for now because he still really wants to.

bloss Sun 30-Aug-09 21:49:54

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