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hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 08:37:01

7week old baby - 5 weeks early..

yesterday day fed 2.5 hourly.. for about 30-45mins each time

night time fed 1.5 hourly for 15min each time..

so far today just 5min snacking..

is this usual?

every day his pattern is different.. just want some reassurance that this is normal!

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail Thu 20-Aug-09 08:39:48

I'm fairly sure it is! Unless he is ill or seems to be struggling he will just be getting what he needs - sometimes he'll fancy grazing all day, sometimes he'll fill up for a little while.
Assuming he's fairly content (as he usually is) and is weeing and pooing I don't think there's anything to worry about.

gypsymoon Thu 20-Aug-09 08:44:55

Absolutely! Little ones are notoriously erratic! I know it's frustrating, and confusing!, at the moment, but give it time you and he will work out a rhythm.

Don't try to pin him down to any 'schedule'...feed on demand. This is is the best way to successfully establish and maintain bf.

I bf my DD1 until she was 3 and still bf my DD2, I can't remember really ever knowing when they wanted a feed - just fed them when they were hungry...if you think about it are we ever hungry/thirsty at exactly the same times every day? smile

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail Thu 20-Aug-09 08:45:49

No, but i eat all day every day - does that count? blush

gypsymoon Thu 20-Aug-09 08:48:58

My DD1 certainly did - think she must get that from her mama.... grin

gypsymoon Thu 20-Aug-09 08:51:20

Just re read my post blush....what i meant to say, I never had a set time when I fed my babies, just fed them when they wanted it...that'll learn me for bf DD2 while typing. Somehow she manages to feed and do gymnastics at the same time. Remarkable!

MrsBadger Thu 20-Aug-09 08:51:52


have you been reading babycare books that talk about schedules and patterns hmm?

bin 'em all, get a stack of good novels and/or dvds and plan some quality sofa time

hairymelons Thu 20-Aug-09 08:54:37

Totally normal, as Stealth says if LO is weeing/ pooing a-plenty there's nothing to worry about.
My DS never had 2 days the same (and we tried to get him into a routine) so just go with the flow. The beauty of feeding on demand is they get what they need when they need it

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 20-Aug-09 08:57:13

What MrsBadger said

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 09:00:42

Thanks all. Yes been reading, and been offered advice from lots of people, and getting myself confused.. but have stuck to feeding on demand and sometimes it looks as though he is making his own "pattern" - only to change it the next day!
He only poos twice a week - but there's so much of it when he does that I'm not worried.. and plenty of wet nappies too!

I like the idea of quality sofa time - but if you do this, is it hard to get out and about (been finding daily walk when I can manage it sanity saving, and also meeting antenatal group very reassuring).
Sorry to ask such simple questions, just finding it very reassuring to know what other people think/have felt... particularly in this sleep deprived state.

(Night before he woke a lot less so had a better day - so in comparison feel awful today!)

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 09:01:21

PS thanks for reassurance about my first post, feel suitable reassured now!

MrsBadger Thu 20-Aug-09 09:08:58

oh yes, get out and about as much as poss (obv being prepared to stop and feed in starbucks / mates house / park bench if necc - keep novel in pram basket)

but when you are home do not beat yourself up re housework, homecooked meals etc just at the moment

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 09:15:46

thank you Mrs B
I guess haven't got my head round feeding out and about in public on my own yet (fine with antenatal group or hubby around).. but I guess this comes through confidence or out of necessity! You just get on with it cos you have to!

And yes had been feeling a bit bad about house work as tiny flat so any mess makes it awful to be in (not normally houseproud at all but scared of tripping over stuff) and a visitor who came and said it was the messiest flat he had ever seen! But will stuff that for now.
Meals - just been getting shopping online and heating stuff up.. but perhaps more takeways are the answer too - as a treat!

MrsBadger Thu 20-Aug-09 09:23:35

grin your visitor should have offered to tidy up!

and yes it is just practice re feeding out and about - if you look at yourself in a mirror you'll see just how little is on show
remember, to the general public a discreetly feeding baby is way preferable to a screaming one...

I used to do a lightning tidy-up in the evenings while DH bathed dd - theoretically this was to give me a break, but if I'd be sat on the sofa watching Homes Under The Hammer and eating biscuits all day I thought it was fair play.

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 09:37:51

Good idea about the mirror.. been doing asimilar tidy up thing on occasions when hubby does a EBM feed before bed.. also thought the point of that was to give me a rest so glad I'm not the only one!

Right better get off the computer and try to get some sleep
thanks for tips.. really helped!

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail Thu 20-Aug-09 10:58:48

you hear about the nasty comments and looks from feeding in public but that's not really been my experience and I don't think a lot of people encounter it - just a few who are unlucky. Most of the time other people are too busy doing their own thing to notice let alone care!

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 13:16:43

Having a weird morning - he's feeding for 2-3mins then passing out for about an hour.. tho in last half waking up every 5min eating 4 2min then passing out...

Surely this isn't normal. might be wind i guess. typing 1 handed sorry xx

MrsBadger Thu 20-Aug-09 13:30:50

newborns are weird

roll with it!

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 13:50:22

he then settled on me, stayed asleep and I have managed to transfer him to his cot - without him waking up...

Hopefully when he does then wake he will realise he is actually very hungry and take a proper feed!
Maybe because he had several unusually long feeds yesterday he is needing less today..

As you say, roll with it!

chibi Thu 20-Aug-09 14:03:48

as long as he is having plenty of heavy wet nappies anything goes.

my ds was also 5 weeks early and he has only 'woken up' (ie been awake for an hour at a time) in the last few weeks - he is 10 weeks old now.

i think as mrsb has said, newborns are weird, prem ones possibly even more so, as long as the signs of health are there, roll with it!

congratulations + well done bf thus far!

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 14:55:07

Thank you!
Nice to know this is "normal" prem. behaviour too!

He woke up and fed for 15mins and is now fully awake and playing.

I think there might be something going on with my supply - he was having a growth spurt last week (I think) and saw in last feed that boob was squirting milk everywhere by itself when he latched off crying.. maybe that is why he is needing to feed for short times as loads is coming out...

Anyhows at least he has eaten something. Nappies are always heavy wet and plentiful.. so guess I just need to stop worrying!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 20-Aug-09 16:41:01

When they are still little they can struggle a bit when it really comes jetting out - that will pass though so don't worry about it .
DS is a year old now and has a tendency to press on my boob as he latches off, which results in a huge squirt of milk spraying across the bed or sofa. We don't BF in public anymore wink

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 21:43:39

Tonight he has been the complete opposite and drank me dry.. feeding for half an hour at 5 then from 7 till just now, falling asleep on the boob every so often then refusing to settle after being put back in his cot and waking up hungry..
Now fallen asleep just as hubby got home from work.
Maybe this extra feeding was his body's way of making up for eating hardly anything all morning.. do they "balance" themsemselves out like this?

hairband Thu 20-Aug-09 22:13:14

is this cluster feeding?

MrsBadger Fri 21-Aug-09 08:37:21

yes they do balance it out - and keep doing so for a long while (see also my 2yo who will eat barely anything one day and wolf everything in sight the next...)

Sounds like typical evening cluster feeding - Kellymom has good advice on this, as well as on just about every other aspect of bfing. Worth bookmarking!

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