Jenni Murray disappointed me deeply.
i love her low, sonorous voice and she is an integral part of my life.
but when she said -
'if bottle feeding makes the woman happier after being miserable breastfeeding, surely that makes it better for the child'
which is essentially free advertising for formula companies, i could have screamed.
Let me explain: I have failed in many things in life. Many of these things were worthwhile things.
My degree: a 2:2 - had i tried harder that would have been a more worthwhile 2:1
my career: moving from disaster to disaster.
My social life: TOTAL absence of one!
I feel bad about these failures, not least because the resultant financial malaise does have a negative effect on my family. But this doesn't mean i have to turn around and say 'ah well, a 2:1 is not that great anyway' or indeed 'career success doesn't really make you happy'. Jenni was playing exactly this game, the 'I don't have it so no-one else should' game.
If i heard someone else wasn't enjoying their degree, or job - especially in the first few weeks, I'd tell them to work bloody hard at it, apply themselves so even if they failed...at least they'd know they'd tried. She is doing the exact opposite, being the nations false friend, advising that if you're not happy..instead of persevering and finding a way through it, just ditch it.
That is not the advice you give a good friend.
I see Jenni's position as derived entirely from guilt in what she perceives as her own failure. (she has actually demonstrated this in other related discussions)
Now Jenni is a very successful woman, doing a job I would kill to do - why does she have to feel so bad about not succeeding in just one thing? Why does she blame the pro-breastfeeding lobby, the very people who could have helped her? Why doesn't she get angry with the crap support from the health professionals that (in her words) 'don't give you any help then turn up three days later to give you a state-sponsored slap on the wrist when they're on the bottle'
I have been so incensed by this 'debate' (and indeed by my own experience as a first-time mother trying to establish breastfeeding) that I have been writing a piece entitled 'the case against journalism'..I'll post it when I'm finished for comments before I go live with it as I'd appreciate your thoughts.