me too - Am 31 weeks, they seemed to get better for a while and are agony again now (mainly when latching on so that's not too bad I suppose). To the point where I cry out when he latches on! I'm assuming they will get better because my boobs are generally very sore - that will get better won't it?
I'm sure I used to have completely pain free feeds (don't think I'd have got this far if not) but I find it hard to believe iyswim. As well as the feeding there's the nipple twiddling which is worse as that hurts all the time - although it did prompt me to get his nails cut last night
Yes, it was awful feeding dd1, I had terrible pain but as soon as dd2 arrived the feeding was very easy and I could barely feel her latched on because her suck was so weak compared to dd1. I had some engorgement but very mild compared to the first time.
Nah, I'm afraid each child will get it - however the baby will get more colds because your older child will have some immunity to some things. Oh and you get twice as many as well. Breast milk has antibacterial properties as well so your boobs get a wash with the milk while they are feeding in any case (especially if you have a dribbler in the family )
I had excruciating pain feeding ds during pregnancy at times, and it was never better than uncomfy. it was so demoralising after having worked so hard to get to pain-free happy breastfeeding that had at that point lasted many months. After dd was born, the sensitivity continued for 4-5 days (milk came in on day 2-3) and it was the same for feeding both children. Then overnight it vanished, and all was comfy again. It was SUCH a relief!
I'm not 22 weeks pregnant and feeding dd 1-2 times a day. It isn't (yet) as painful as it got with ds, but it still isn't fun. Hopefully it will improve promptly like last time once the new baby arrives.
I never washed any boobs between children. The toddler will drool on the baby anyway (and sneeze, kiss, cough, poke etc) so bodily fluids will get shared even in a non tandem feeding family. Thankfully neither child has really had proper D&V yet.
Leningrad - I had first and third trimester breast tenderness but the second was peachy . It seems totally random. But DS is a year next week so I've been tandem feeding for that long and it never hurts now