I've been using the Lansinoh ones - they are definitely not as streamlined as disposable ones, but I find they work with most of my tops (often fairly close fitting jersey) It also depends on which bra I use them with, though. I got them from John Lewis.
not really, you get used to them. ever tried on of the stick on bras? they are like them a bit. worth it cos u dont get that milky odour as well as they actually stop your boobs leaking as opposed to just catching spills.
I also liked lilypadz but used the really nice cotton ones too. You will want the contour kind. Also, if you get to the point where you are not leaking that much there are some sports-type bras with removable pads that I really liked. I think they were either Hanes or Fruit of the Loom.