DD2 is 20 months old and has been ebf. She started cutting down recently and after feeding DD1 for over a year, then being pregnant, and then feeding DD2 I was quite happy to let her. She has been asking for BF's in the morning and sometimes at night, but has been having cows milk at night as well, but she hasn't asked or had a BF since yesterday morning, and I just realised and burst into tears.
Dh (to his shame) laughed at me when I told him why I was weepy. So I am here where you will understand and give me a slap for being silly at DD2 stopping BFing when that is what I wanted!
She was helped to wean by me distracting her at normal Bfing times. This is why DH finds it so bizarre as I have been waiting for her to wean so I can start dieting properly, go away for the weekend without children for first time in years, not be here for bedtime etc etc..all selfish mummy things!
Ah bless you - DD is also at this stage but she's much older now soooooo....she went two days this week without asking and she regularly misses days now. I'm quite happy for her to wean now, especially as DS is nearly a year but very much a milk monster.
I felt utterlydesolate when she first started skipping days but she's just growing up. DD told me 'I love you mummy and I love your boobies but I'm a big girl now and I can't have booby at preschool so I have cup milk'
HAve snaffled the skittles bag hiding in my secret cupboard and DH is off to get wine.
I just need not to crack and feed her when if she wakes at 4am. Last night she was wailing, I gave her a teeny sip of water and she screeched for about 10 seconds, gave a big sigh, and then went straight back to sleep in my arms
my dd1 is 20 months as well and now often goes several days without bf. I know there is not much milk left and part of me feels happy that she is self weaning but another part of me feels so sad that this stage is ending. I know exactly how you feel, so no advice for you really other than to let yourself grieve a little bit and then move on to the next stage.
And my DH definitely doesn't get it either, especially as I was moaning 6 months ago about wanting to wean dd!!!
I am in the process of weaning DD3 (11 mos) from daytime bfeeding, as I have to go back to work in 4 weeks. I understand your position completely - she is my last baby, and it's so sad to have this go, but on the other hand, I'll have some freedom through the day (though don't really want to go back to work).
She is very angry with me, though, and headbutts my boobs and bites me in an attempt to get what she wants
It'll be great when you have that first boozy night out though, Jack