...to the point where I get drained, worn out and give up. But then he is waking up every 45 minutes and wanting to latch on which I now refuse to do(for my own sanity.)
I worry he's hungry, but I don't know what to do to make him feed. Have tried doing it in the dark, in isolation, you name it, he won't do it.
He's a bit like it in the day but it's really bad when I want to feed him at bed time and not have to do it again for 3 and a half hours. I'm starting to resent the night feeds and having to do them at all, to be brutally honest, after demand feeding for 10 months.
A few things to try, if you haven't already, that might help:
*try wearing a nursing necklace that is colourful and chunky that he can mess with while at the breast...can be a good idea to have a few of them and rotate now and then if he gets bored. Might even have one with a few bells on it or built in rattle as well.
*have a special cuddly toy that he can hold onto while nursing
*put him down as soon as he starts to become distracted and won't feed well....wait a short bit before trying again, and repeat as necessary