How do you know the difference between self-weaning and nursing strikes? Self-weaning is a very gradual process, whereas nursing strikes happen really suddenly - dd2 was still breastfeeding a lot during the day and didn't really drink much else (she has SN and was still a proper baby at 14 months), and then she got such a heavy cold she just couldn't manage and was obviously totally put off She got quite dehydrated and it was touch & go as to whether she'd have to go on a drip. It was horrible and I felt so sad about it.
With self-weaning you just get to the point where breastfeeding is such a small part of your child's life that they eventually just forget about it.
My dd is 28 months and her last bf was on wednesday. She's been down to a couple of feeds per week for the last 4 or 5 weeks. She may or may not have self weaned as i type, but today she had an afternoon nap at home without a bf for the first time so she's taken a step closer. (If we're out she takes a nap in the pushchair without bothering with a feed, she's done this for about 8 months).
She stopped feeding to sleep at night around the time she turned 2. I didn't try to make her, she just wanted to get into her cot and have a story instead. It's been very gradual and I'm very happy it's been on her terms. Her little sister is due to arrive in feb so I have no idea what will happen with the feeding then. I'm happy either way to be honest.