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Just been to see HV... ARGH!

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eilidhfi Wed 27-Aug-08 17:25:29

Took DD to baby clinic this afternoon to get her weighed. Saw a health visitor we haven't seen before who was very nice, weighed DD, measured her, then asked if we were having any other problems I said no.

HV: Is DD feeding ok?
Me: Yes
HV: Taking all her bottles?
Me: No, she's breast fed.
HV: Oh. Is the breast milk still enough for her?

hmm DD is 16 weeks old. I'm now a bit angry, had I been having any problems I very much doubt she would have been able to help and it would seem that she was more than willing to suggest weaning shock. Surely assuming all babies are bottlefed completely undermines bf?

I'm not being oversensitive am I?

Elasticwoman Wed 27-Aug-08 20:49:10

No, you're quite right to be cross. It's an insult to suggest that your bm might not be good enough for her.

When the hv at my dd1's 9 month check found that she was still bf, she asked if I was giving any vitamin drops. Dd1 was healthy and big for her age; hv did not ask how much solid food she was taking, yet told me that if not ff she should be having vitamin drops. I challenged her on this and she was completely unable to substantiate her case saying "we are told by the govt we have to say this." This was in 1994. Times don't change much.

If a hv had said to me at 16 wks what yours said, I think I would have shouted at her.

FlightAttendent Wed 27-Aug-08 20:51:27


I would have flounced. I can quite believe it is all gvt directed tosh.


policywonk Wed 27-Aug-08 20:54:23

Write a stiff letter to the PCT. She shouldn't be spouting this tosh. Some women won't be as confident as you are (or seem to be wink) and might take her seriously. She should be told to brush up on her knowledge or pipe down!

BouncingTurtle Wed 27-Aug-08 21:27:41

I've had similar - I spoke to a HV to see if she had some info on BLW (a MNer mentioned getting a DVD on it, so wanted to know if my Surestart had them) and she started asking me about whether ds had stopped sleeping through the night (err he has never slept through!) and how many bottles he was having!
I vowed never to ask advice from her again!

Elasticwoman Thu 28-Aug-08 08:56:27

This assumption that all babies go on the bottle sooner or later, is so annoying. Just shows the power of marketing, and becomes self-fulfilling prophecy.

KatieMorag Thu 28-Aug-08 09:04:22

eilidh - no wonder you were angry. i just avoided going to teh Hv. TBH teh last thing I needed with a baby , a toddler and a 4yo was to spend 45 mins sitting in their tiny waiting area, then to go in and be told that my baby was teh wrong weight or length and shouldnt i be stopping bf now???? At least he got 8 montsh before i was told that, not 16 WEEKS

i just went to the special clinics for vaccinations

I don't think my youngest has been weighed since he was born. He is 2 1/2 and doesnt seem to have suffered. Besides he is still bf - i cant imagine what they woudl have to say about that

eilidhfi Thu 28-Aug-08 10:28:51

Oops didn't realise I'd posted this thread twice!

I don't take DD to be weighed very often, mainly cos she is quite big (and also very long) so I know they'll kick up a fuss. My usual HV has got it into her head that I'm on some crash diet cos I'm back at my pre-preggers weight hmm I think they just like to invent problems to keep themselves amused!

Katie Morag DD is firstborn so I have plenty of time to be sitting around in waiting rooms

Has anyone ever had a good HV?!

KatieMorag Thu 28-Aug-08 10:30:40

if you have any spare time with a 16 week old baby you shoudl be sitting with your feet up with a cup of tea and a magazine wink

eilidhfi Thu 28-Aug-08 10:32:59

Or on mn? grin

LaTrucha Thu 28-Aug-08 10:34:24

I wondered if anyone liked their HV on here so did a search and they do!

I've so far had 5 in nearly 8 months hmm. The UNIVERSAL attitude to any slight niggle is, 'well, that's the problem with bf babies.' I fel like a should apologise for bf. No, I don't. I feel bloody narked!

Elasticwoman Thu 28-Aug-08 14:24:42

Yes I had a reasonable hv. She was team leader and a bf specialist.

MrsJamin Fri 29-Aug-08 12:00:44

Count yourself lucky, at my clinic, it's amazing if you get the same HV twice - it's not even enough to learn which ones you trust the advice of and which ones you don't!

KatieMorag Sat 30-Aug-08 17:19:03

both of our Hv seem very nice people IYSWIM. Its just they don't seem to have any useful advice or information.

lauraloola Sat 30-Aug-08 18:17:57

My hv's are useless. I dont bother speaking to them about dd now I go to my gp instead - I get much more sense and understanding from him.

Dd has only been measured twice - At birth then at hv sign off. She is 12 weeks now - Do you hv's measure them at every visit?

HappyChildminderBerkshire Sat 30-Aug-08 18:38:30

I've had 1 really good HV who is always supportive and actually gives good advice, and 2 who talk out their bums (wean to solids at 4-5 months, move to bottles at 6 months, unable/unwilling to help with BF latching issues....did they actually train for this role??!!!)

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