Wow! Seems this is a hot topic! Came to this site for the first time over the weekend looking for some support and info, feeling quite low - and ended up in tears for the rest of the day! Dunno if I went to the wrong threads or what...but feeling terrible now.
I have 2 teens, that I happily and proudly BF exclusively for 6 months, and continued with solids through to 12 months - no probs. Have just had a new baby - 4+ weeks old - and feeding has become the biggest issue! BF for first 3 weeks - hard work - he was snacking every 10 mins - but determined through occasional weepy moments, and very tender boobs to persevere. Then got nasty dose of mastitis in one breast - unbelievable pain - worse than anything, and couldn't just "feed more" as suggested - so was going on one 'cylinder' for a while. But after couple of days of screaming baby, and sobbing all the time - I decided to mix feed, and he now has breast first, and tops up with bottle. Was feeling both relieved that baby was so much happier - like different baby, and I was able to stop my crying. Felt bad that he wasn't on best breast exclusively but thought at least getting some of the good stuff - and he seems super healthy and happy.
But now - after reading some of the posts here I feel terrible and don't know what to do now? Seems some seem to think I don't deserve to have him if I'm not prepared to pesevere! Is formula really that terrible? Don't get me wrong, have always advoceted breast, and never thought I wouldn't be BFing - just feel so guilty now - I know that parenting isn't always easy - I have 2 teens - both healthy and happy (mostly - for teens anyway!) that I raised alone - and feel I would do anything - chop off arm, hot coals etc - for them - so why do I feel I can't do this? The offending breast is still quite sore, even after full course of antibiotics - and I think I'm just scared of using it. And the other just doesn't satisfy my hungry little man - and yes I know that to increase production I just need to feed more - have tried - but he just seems to want more. I thought that him being happy, and me being saner and happier was a factor - but it seems that this is a wrong view?
Sorry - rambling on now - sorry for sounding a bit sorry for myself - just feeling really miserable - so what am I asking help for? Guess it's partly facts on how bad formula is? Does it cancel out the limited breast he's getting? Maybe, if I'm totally honest, perhaps I'm looking for some understanding, and maybe justification for my decision? I'm I really that selfish and bad mum? Your thoughts/opinions really wanted (though perhaps not the 'shouldn't be a mum' ones - not sure I'm strong enough for that...sorry!)
[Also apologies for not using the right lingo - don't know it yet - will get the hang of it soon I'm sure!]
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wishbird · 14/07/2008 11:29
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