DS is 6 months and has been exclusively breastfed. We introduced solids last week and he has taken to it better than I had ever thought (dd didn't eat until she was 1). I initially introduced one meal but as soon as he realised what food was for he started shouting and crying if anyone was eating and he wasn't! He currently has breakfast and dinner as 'official' meals and then eats bits of whatever we are eating at lunch and through the day. He also breastfeeds probably about 8 times in the day and about the same again at night(shit that's a lot isn't it?!)
The problem we have is with sleep-basically we aren't getting any! We had a stage, I think around 3 months, where he was only waking twice a night. He then hit a growth spurt and had a bad cold all at the same time and it went downhill from there with him waking a minimum of 5 or 6 times. The current pattern is for him to wake at 10.30/11ish and 1.30/2ish, both times he takes a big feed then goes straight back to sleep(He also wakes at 8.30/9pm but doesn't usually need a feed then) However he will either then sleep til 4ish (on a good night) or wake after only 15 mins or so and will then fuss and feed for the rest of the night. I bring him into bed with me then and try to feed lying down so I can at least doze but often he will refuse to feed like this and will cry unless I sit up with him.
I deal with all the night wakings myself (also for dd who also wakes and demands milk most nights-luckily that is just a case of handing her the beaker and leaving her to it)but then I usually hand ds over to dh at 5.30/6ish so he can have him for an hour or so before he needs to get ready for work and I can rest. If I'm lucky dh will get ds to sleep in this time and I can sometimes stay in bed til 8/8.30.
The problem is that dh is beginning to get annoyed with being handed an unsettled baby early every morning (I can't not-by that time it is usually a case of hand him over or get annoyed with him cos I am so tired). I did buy some formula a short while ago, thinking I'd give him a bottle before bed as I did with dd but for some reason everytime I think of doing it I decide not to. DH wants me to at least try giving him the formula, his argument being that I can't complain of no sleep if I'm stubbornly not doing something which could help me get more. He also says that I've done the best by exclusively breastfeeding until 6 months, he understands that I want to continue breastfeeding but doesn't think one bottle a day will do any harm, especially now he is on solids too.
I'm not really sure why I don't want to give the formula, I think partly because if it works I will feel like I've failed because ds can't sleep on my milk! Worse case scenario I guess is if it makes no difference to his sleep but he then goes off boob (as dd did) and I'm having to make bottles several times a night instead!
Any thoughts/advice/similar stories? Am I being uneccesarily stubborn?
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Aaaargh! I don't know what to do, advice and sympathy needed!
claireybee · 17/06/2008 10:22
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