Did anyone see the piece on BF in public on the Wright Stuff this morning?

[missbumpy]

Was it just me or was there a lot of talk about "taste" and "decency" and how BFing is great but only up until 6mo and only if the mother doesn't insist on making a spectacle of herself and making other people feel uncomfortable . I noticed no one on the panel had actually breast fed. I was too busy BFing to bother calling in and having my say

[TinkerbellesMum]

I had the discussion on here awhile ago that Kaye is supposed to be an ambassador for UNICEF UK, I was rather disgusted at her attitude to breastfeeding last time I saw her on TWS. I missed it today with dropping Tink off at the CM.

[Scuff]

The Wright Stuff is like a live-action tabloid.
I am stunned that he is still peddling the same old tired stereotypes.

Nob.
Allegedly.

[Heated]

They were purporting to be pro bf but then spoke about women flinging their boobs around willy-nilly .

They didn't say limit bf to 6m in public - that I think was the proposal which they roundly rubbished - but they did all feel squeamish about the Onions lady (forgotten her fn) who was also on This Morning with Clare Byam (sp?)and was in the Daily Mail because she was still feeding her dcs at 3 & 5yrs. Kaye did say if we saw bf more it would be normalised.

There was a woman on the phone-in who'd been approached in starbucks and told she was disgusting for feeding her dd.

[TinkerbellesMum]

That's Stella, who is also a friend of the lady (I've forgotten her name) who faced Dr Hilary btw.

[youcannotbeserious]

I'd honestly like to see breastfeeding areas.

I have a month old son and I'm mixed feeding him, because I find it so difficult to breast feed in public.

I fed him recently in the privacy of my car and a passing truck beeped at me!

Did the driver really think I'd appreciate that?

It doesn't surprise me at all that a woman has been 'told off' in Starbucks - someone told me recently that it was her 'right' to eat her meal in peace and quiet and not be bothered by BF mothers (and, yes, it was a woman and a mother)

FWIW, both my mother and DH would NOT be comfortable with me breastfeeding in public.

Sorry, it's not really adding to the OP, but it's just a topic which has got to mea bit recently. I think lots of people think that BF mothers should never leave their houses.

[harpsichordcarrier]

ycbs sorry you feel so unsupported.
TM the poster is called greenmonkies, she is a very sensible and nice lady.
honestly, just don't watch LCD shit like the Wright Stuff. you will be much happier they had exactly the same feature a few months ago, and a few months before that.
the trashy media can't leave bf alone. it is an irresistable combination of tits and righteous indignation.

[sfxmum]

I am sorry some of you feel unsupported

Starbucks around these parts are prety much boobs'R'us one sometimes feels left out dd having weaned
do not listen to tabloid nonsense

[TinkerbellesMum]

That's greenmonkies? Vague recollections of her posting just after the programme are swirling into my head... I forgot she was a member here.

[missbumpy]

I thought this whole idea of women who enjoy getting 'em out in public just to make other people feel uncomfortable is really odd. Where did this idea come from? Has anyone ever seen someone do that? Most women I know are really put off BFing for precisely the reason that they don't want to flash their breasts in public. I felt really housebound for the 1st few months as I was having trouble BFing and wasn't confident enough to do it in public.

I agree that the Wright stuff is a televised tabloid and I shouldn't be watching it . Being on maternity leave has seen my standards in telly watching plummet!

To be fair to the presenter (not Matthew Wright), she seemed fairly sympathetic to BFing. They all were vaguely in agreement that 'breast is best', they just also seemed to be saying that it wasn't nice if the baby was too old (Ann Diamond shuddered at the thought of BFing a baby with teeth) or if the mother insisted on flaunting her breasts unecessarily in public!

[TinkerbellesMum]

I've seen it, same woman offered me somewhere else to feed first! I was wearing a nursing top, she pulled it out her neckline then fell asleep with it hanging out.

What would they do if their baby was born with teeth?

[skidoodle]

What's the deal with the teeth thing? I think my DD (12 weeks) might be teething and loads of people have made comments about it in relation to breastfeeding and I just can't see it.

The advice it to breastfeed until 2 isn't it? I know that doesn't work out for everybody, but all children have teeth before they're a year old and I certainly hope to be still breastfeeding by then.

What's the issue? Do they think she's going to bite my nipples off?

Also agree missbumpy, I've often wondered the same thing. There was a really funny thread on here once about somebody's cousin who stripped to the waist to BF but that's the only example I've ever come across.

It took me a while to feel comfortable BFing in public, but now I'm totally unashamed even though it sometimes involves spurting milk.

[kittywise]

But what's 'too old" regarding feeding a baby/child?

I don't expect answers btw, I just wish people wouldn't make such stupid judgments.

[kittywise]

skidoodle, actually my 14 month old has only just got his first tooth! It's quite common for children to get first teeth over a year old.

[skidoodle]

kittywise oh right. I really should read more parenting books Thanks for setting me straight.

Anyway, my point still stands - the presence of teeth is no indication that you should give up breastfeeding.

[skidoodle]

And congratulations on the tooth

[kittywise]

Thanks skidoodle, sorry if I sounded like a pratt!!
Don't read any parenting books though fhs, you won't learn anything worth knowing

[missbumpy]

I thought I'd have to give up when DD got her teeth too but now she's 8mo and sporting 2 pearly whites and we're still happily BFing away Lots of other people make comments though. DP was saying just the other day that I'll have to stop when the top teeth come in .

[missbumpy]

PS. PMSL at the stripping to the waist to BF in public

[Poohbah]

The Driver beeping was probably supportive of breastfeeding. Loads of blokes I know are obviously Matthew Wright is an exception to this.

[fitfox]

Dear oh Dear - it really saddens me that people in this country are so f*cked up that they feel uncomfortable seeing a woman simply feed her baby!

FGS we've been feeding babies for tens of thousands of years - why do people feel uncomfortable about it and insist on passing all their hang-ups on by making stupid comments on TV/Radio

Kitty - in answer to your question, I think that 18 years is probably too old

[kittywise]

I don't know foxy, it depends who it is

[Cryptoprocta]

@Poobah - Yup, probably that and the "Honk if you love boobies" sticker in her back window

I'm planning to breastfeed (due next month), but the reaction of people is a bit scary. The reaction of the "it's natural" argument seems to be "yeah, so's defecating but we have rooms for that!"

My husband keeps saying he's supportive, but when I asked what if I wanted to feed in his family's house when visiting, he said "Go into the dining room"!

No wonder so many people give up. It's not the pain and discomfort, it's the loneliness of constantly having to be ushered out of the room to somewhere away from polite society

[harpsichordcarrier]

again, I am sorry that women should feel so unsupported and people who make snidey comments about bitty etc are PART OF THE PROBLEM and shoul dbe ashamed of themselves
Stella, I think you express it very well in your very eloquent post