Just that really. Have struggled with BF from the start, DD is 7 weeks old and planning to try mix feeding for a few weeks before I throw the towel in as my nipples are not getting any better still and I can't handle the pain and the mental strain the pain is having on me. I struggle with feeds from about 10pm til 6am the most, I'm so exhausted and that makes my pain tolerance lower so I'm frequently bawling my eyes for the feeds and it's really stressful for DH too. I started introducing a bottle of EBM every other night for DH to do from her being about 3 weeks old and we started introducing formula last week for two evenings, basically I'm doing it really slow to try and avoid problems with engorgement and my milk supply as well so from next week the plan is that every night DH will do one feed alternating between EBM and formula. I want to increase the formula though because that's not enough for me to sustain BF with this pain. Is it possible to FF for all feeds like 10pm-6am if I start doing it gradually or will my milk just dry up? Has anyone does this successfully?
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MeadowHay · 06/08/2018 17:57
I’m guessing you’ve already sought advice/help for the latch and had baby checked for tongue tie. It really shouldn’t be as painful by now unless something is wrong.
Don’t be afraid to call it a day with breastfeeding. It is a wonderful thing to do but your mental/physical health is just as important. Sometimes you need to put yourself first! 
Yeah, latch been checked sooo many times by different midwives including the specialist one at the infant feeding team at the hospital, and loads of the breastfeeding peer support workers. Nobody can find anything wrong with the latch, but I know it's not deep enough, because my nipples are damaged, it hurts throughout a feed and often my nipple comes out lipstick shaped and there's blisters like a ridge on each of them from her shallow latch which is angled on each side too 
. But nobody seems to be able to fix it. They've all said they can't see any tongue tie either but have referred her to the hospital clinic anyway just to check given they don't know why I'm still in pain, she was referred about a fortnight ago and the appointment isn't for another 3 weeks or so still, and I don't know if I'll still be BF by then as really taking it each day at a time. Also even got checked for thrush at suggestion of the infant feeding team midwife, the nurse took swabs but nope no infection.
I had similar and abposterior tongue tie had been missed. I’d been getting by using nipple shields (have you tried those!) but having the tongue tie fixed made all the difference.
I think mixed feeding is doable (definitely get advice from HV) but I’m not sure missing all the night feeds would keep the demand up and may impact the day.
Good luck. It isn’t always easy-I know
Thanks everyone. I usually use nipple shields at home but they're too fiddly for me to use when out and about also if DD gets too worked up and screamy she refuses to feed with the shields so I can't use them then. I mentioned this to BF peer supporter but nobody seems to have ever heard of a baby suddenly refusing to latch with the shields 
. I find that it is less painful with the shields and my nipples recover a bit, but it is still mildly painful with the shields, sometimes more so depending on her latch and occasionally she pulls my nipple all the way through the shield and you can see blisters from the holes on the shield. I use the biggest size shield already so don't have any options there. I find the Medela the best, have Lansinoh ones too but seems like my nipple gets pulled through that one more often. It's still not pain-free even with the shields but better than without.
DD is getting a bottle every night now, formula or expressed milk. Will start adding in another bottle maybe around midday or something from next week too.
The last few days have been super tough as she's been so screamy and the only thing that stops her screaming is feeding her so I've been stuck feeding her constantly with only like 20/30 minute gaps sometimes and often she's screaming for a lot of that while I struggle to go to the loo or get myself a drink or anything, gah. Spending most of the days at my parents as we've just moved house and it's being renovated, DM is good and helpful but everyone else - DF, DB and DS (who are both younger than me with no kids) and then all the extended family contacting me via Whatsapp telling me to formula feed as if she would cry less if she was formula fed. I have no idea why everyone thinks that would be the case because she is very well fed, I don't do much else other than feed her most days, and she's gaining weight well and growing tall, and I can express fairly well too, she has plenty of pooey and wet nappies so she is getting the milk so she's not crying because of hunger. It's so hard, I'm trying my absolute best to do what I feel will be best for her BF as much as possible even though I'm finding it so hard and the longer I persevere the more unsupportive my family all get and they're so vocal about it, I keep crying when she's crying but not because she's upsetting me, because I keep hearing "give her a bottle", "she's just such a bad-tempered baby" etc! I know that's sort of another issue but it is tied in with my difficulties BF.
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