Ok I really need some help with how to stop breastfeeding. My ds is almost 20 months old and still breastfeeding. He wants to breastfeed all the time when he is with me which is all the time apart from during my working hours. My husband works away and therefore I have no one to take over and distract ds when he wants to breastfeed. He is not doing it out of hunger, he is a good eater and eats 3 meals a day with snack in between. It’s completely for comfort. He does not have dummy or any other sort of comforter. He wakes constantly through the night, he hasn’t slept through once since he was born. It’s got to the point that I regret breastfeeding in the first place and wish I had just bottle fed. Really need advice, have tried health visitor and they say they don’t recommend stopping until child decides but I’ve had enough now. Think after 20 months of breastfeed I’ve done well and should be allowed to stop!!
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www.emmapickettbreastfeedingsupport.com/twitter-and-blog/weaning-toddler-bob-and-pre-schooler-billie-how-do-you-stop-breastfeeding-an-older-child this is a really good piece about weaning toddlers.
I found Never Sit Down was also a key part 
It does get really hard after 1 especially if you're Mummy dummy. Honestly trying to be helpful not smug, but I structured feeds after mine were weaned - at specific times for specific things, e.g. after breakfast, before nap (there were two naps a day until they were about 1) and bedtime and gradually phased them out through the day using a bottle instead if they still needed a sucky milk drink, but just regular drinks if not. You could maybe try an accelerated version of this, but if you're determined not to use bottles at all, I'm not sure how well it would work.By one, I wasn't having to feed in the morning, by 18/20 months I was only doing the bedtime feed. However, I was quite happy to go on until at least two and the bedtime one was a real PiTA after we dropped it with my second, took a while to get a good routine. If you're not going to be brutal, expect to have a made a rod for yourself in some way. She was still asking for BFs when she was nearly 3, which tugged at the heart strings. I had a very busy 4 days where it was difficult to get back to feed her and that's how I got it to finally stop. I've known others go away - is that an option?
The longer you go on after one, the harder it is IME and I also have several friends who went on until nearly 3, one who went on until after 3 (all by choice, though). The friends who went on until nearly three tended to have kids who were co-sleeping and were being used for comfort through the night, which was particularly wearing, but by nearly 3 they could have a conversation about stopping, especially if there was another baby coming. Some were tougher with the second child , but the woman whose DD was still feeding after three didn't want to push her second and last baby.
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