I’m at my wits end and don’t really know where to go. Our little lad is 13 months old and breastfed. I decided at 12 months I wanted to wean him off the breast and decided to start with the night feeds. At first it was fine, we knocked out a feed in a week and the other two were down to 10 minutes. Then all hell broke lose - he was poorly so I fed him every time he asked so we didn’t risk dehydration- that was two weeks ago and I’m still feeding him 5-6 times a night. My issue is my husband - we agreed that he needs to settle our lad for every wake up after the 2nd feed - apart from he doesn’t, he picks and chooses - sometimes our boy is screaming in his arms for 10-15 mins (and we’ve never done CIO) and then starts to settle down and DH will then decide to bring him into me for a feed - 30 mins later the first sound our baby makes, DH brings him straight in - 30 mins after that DH could sit with him for a few minutes and he is settled fine. I think it’s all mixed messages and it’s why our night weaning isn’t just failing but is actually causing increased feeds. Tonight our baby got so upset and DH didn’t pull the plug early enough - after 20 minutes or excruciating screaming he finally decided enough was enough and brought him in but our baby had also started to settle down - I felt that it could have been the turning point in our weaning and boom, DH gave up on it and the poor kid thinks he now has to scream for 20 to get mummy. 😓 I’m struggling - we are arguing a lot because we are tired and every time we make a plan he does the opposite in a sleep deprived state. We agreed 4 hours ago to give up and try again in a few weeks - but just now when baby wakes, he held him crying 10 minutes in the hope he would settle without milk - HELP!!!!!!!! I’m at the point where I feel this would be easier to do it myself - at least I could be consistent 😞 I’ve asked him to come to a HV to talk about what is going wrong and maybe he will listen to someone else?
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