Hi there, I had a little boy a few months ago and had my heart and expectations were fully set on breastfeeding. After an intense induction he arrived but never latched on. Numerous midwifes tried and I found it very upsetting each and every time someone tried to what seemed to force him on to me and he would just scream hysterically. It left me pretty traumatised as I never expected this to happen. I ended up pumping instead and this also upset me and I felt that I was missing out in holding/bonding my baby and I found being hooked to a machine psychologically distressing. I only introduced a nipple shield too late and it was falling off and I was in such a overwhelmed and exhausted state that at that time I felt I simply couldn't cope and completely panicked. I saw two LC's but my options were pumping or shields and by this point I didn't really think the shields were working and felt I'd never cope when my husband returned to work.
The thing is it's 4 months now and my little baby only got two weeks worth of breastmilk. I've really been so incredibly upset looking back and don't understand how I didn't try harder or keep going with the shields. I know hindsight is wonderful but I've really struggled and shed numerous tears over this. I have since felt so utterly selfish to have thought I could not cope or keep trying but at the time I was not coping very well.
I just wonder if anyone has been through similar and come out the other side? I am bonding and really working so hard to ensure I do my very best considering the ache and upset I feel that I let him and me down so badly and just hope someone out there can help me feel better if they have gone through a similar experience. I've just felt that I let him down at my very first job at being his mamma and feel pretty sickened since and it's hurt me a lot. Any helpful thoughts or advice to help me stop hurting so much would be really great
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user1493581567 · 15/06/2017 15:27
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