I just wondered why/how you ended up not BFing second or subsequent children, how you felt about it and so on.
I have a two year old who was BF'd till 12 months. The first couple of months were hell - undiagnosed tongue tie meant sporadic weight gain, almost constant feeding, no sleep and terrible pain for me. But we got there and at about four/five months it became easy and later a pleasure.
DC2 is three weeks. Tongue tie picked up sooner and has been snipped but I'm still in pain. (See my other thread on that!) We're obviously right in the middle of cluster feeding which I know is normal if bloody hard. We've also had a few other issues so repeated trips back to labour ward for various things, after a week-long initial hospital stay because the birth wasn't straightforward.
My amazing DC1 is struggling with it - the usual new sibling stuff, me having been in hospital so long then readmitted, lots if follow-up trips, etc. she keeps asking if I'm going back to hospital. And when I am here I've got DC2 permanently attached to me. I am also really missing her - I'm trying to make a bit of time each day for just her (as well as including her in baby stuff) but it's not easy or always doable. I'm worried our fantastic bond will be damaged. I'm finding myself missing the days when it was just us, though DC2 is amazing.
So that's all a long-winded way of me saying I'm right on the verge of packing it in and moving onto FF. I don't want to because I know it gets easier. And I feel guilty about DC2 not getting the same start as DC1. But at the same time, it feels like life would immediately get easier - DC1 could get a bit of mummy time, I could share the load with DH more, etc.
I'm really struggling with what to do. DH will support whatever I choose but I know he instinctively feels the same as I do about giving them both the same start. My incredibly pro-BF and ever so slightly formula-judging (but otherwise lovely!) mum has just suggested I think about FF.
Argh. Anyone got any experience with this? What did you do/how did you feel? Thanks.
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Highlove · 31/08/2016 11:23
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