Serious lack of sleep!

[Mojito6]

Is it something I'm doing wrong?

Baby is 12 weeks old, she slept beautifully waking once most nights, sometimes twice. Would have a quick Breast feed both times then would settle back down for a sleep.

Last week to 10 days or so it's been awful. She'll now wake about 11 and feed, go down, wake up half hour later, feed go down, repeat.....I've been awake since 12 and no signs of her actually settling for more than half an hour or so! What am i doing so wrong when she was sleeping so well?

[worrierandwine]

Could have posted this myself. I was just about to actually my 16 week old is exactly the same and has been for about 3 weeks now. She was doing a massive stretch between 8.30pm ish until about 3.30-4am for weeks (it was amazing) then suddenly became unsettled, started bringing a lot of milk back and wanting to feed every 2 hours during the night and much more in the day. I was just starting to feel I could go plan things a bit more and gauge her but this has thrown me. I've heard of the 4 month growth spurt but this seems a bit early? I don't have any advice unfortunately other than ride the storm and this too shall pass (hopefully!)

[Mojito6]

It's painful isn't it! they sleep really well,fool you Into thinking they're in a slight routine then bam no sleep at all!!

[worrierandwine]

My DD found her thumb to soothe herself but she seems to have lost it again I'm praying this is just a blip and she will eventually return to the happy settled little baby I had become accustomed to!!

[Mojito6]

Me too! I keep telling myself she'll sleep eventually but when you're up for hours each night it's so hard to remember that!

[MumOfTwoMasterOfNone]

Well we've just had the night from hell with my 6.5 month old. At 2am I told DP to take her for a drive as I hadn't been to sleep and she wouldn't get off my boobs.
She stayed asleep for 1.5 hours in the car. That's the only sleep ive had. I thought she might be hungry, so tried food, teething stuff. But no.
My DC1 was a nightmare for it too. Both co-slept but at 9 months, at the end of my tether I let him cry it out in his own cot in his room. I was crying too but I couldn't take the sleep deprivation anymore. I had no help then either.

[ghostspirit]

My 12 week old has been doing the same since he was born. In wish others would understand what it's like to have constant disturbEd moaning because they had one night of disturbed then they go back to sleep in the afternoon. Just me being stroppy because I'm tired

[MrsSparkles]

It's tough isn't it! You're not doing anything wrong - it's just a phase they will get over it. My 12 week old has been similar, I blamed the heat and now I think she has a cold. But I'm far more laid back about it as looking back on DD1 it doesn't last forever.

Try and get some rest when she's napping if you can.

[Mojito6]

I'd love to rest when she's napping but got a three year old as well and feel bad on him if he doesn't get my attention in the day! 'd' h treated himself to a nice lie in this morning and reckons he only got an hours sleep last night but was actually snoring and fast asleep all night. I may have contemplated suffocating him!!

[CurlsLDN]

I thoroughly recommend the wonder weeks app. It shows when all the development leaps happen in the first year, and explains what is going on, why it's happening and how you can help.
You are doing nothing wrong, it's just biology!
Here's the chart from the app, showing when the fussy phases/development leaps are - your baby is right in the middle of one!
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[Mojito6]

Ah fantastic! Thank you for that! Its hard to know how much milk they're having isn't it so you always worry they're not having enough!

[worrierandwine]

It doesn't help when DM and MIL's only advice is "she's a big baby, she might need topping up with formula" ...so frustrating so I've stopped mentioning to them.

[Mojito6]

Oh yeah I bet, that is annoying. Another one that irritates me is "she can't be Hungry again" I've just started replying to that with "why can't she?" they can't answer that question!

[worrierandwine]

You really have to develop selective hearing and quick comebacks to ward off all the unhelpful comments and "advice". Just read your DH post mine reckons he's "up with me" ...pah!! He stirs when she cries then straight back to sleep. The other night DD couldn't settle because of a cold and I'm trying to draw up calpol while rocking her after she'd been crying for at least 30 mins yet DH heard nothing. I lost it with him and he casually says "all you have to do is ask"

[BlondishBear]

worrier my DH is exactly the same. He's only been up 1s since DS was born (now 8 months old, still BF), and that was because I was vomiting every 20 mins.
OP it's probably the hot weather or just a phase. DS still has the odd night like this. U said ur baby used to sleep 7:30 - 3:30? I am the only 1 that got told off by HV for letting DS sleep for more than 3 hours? I didn't go to bed 'till he was 6 weeks old coz had to wake him up for a feed every 2 hours

[babbafishbabe]

Seriously this is just a blip.... DC will not be 7 and requiring 2 drugs to sleep and then still waking at 2am and then DP cannot give anymore drugs so they have to sit with DC and hope they go back asleep but they don't until next lot of drugs can be given.

Seriously .... Don't stress my DC is severely disabled .. You're DC is a baby, they font sleep but eventually they do ... You may feel like it's the end of the world but it's really not!!!!

[Mojito6]

Thanks for all the replies and comments! You do just have to let comments wash over you and ignore snoring dhs!!! He does work full time I suppose!
She was solidly sleeping from 9 til around 2 or 3. It was amazing and so unexpected so I can't really complain I did get decent sleep for a few weeks! She even ept right through til 5 one morning it was crazy! I had mentioned this to the hv she didn't advise to wake her up but she has been putting on loads of weight so maybe she wasn't worried. Certainly paying for it now though!!