I'm really struggling with my 3.5yr old ds at the moment. He is pretty much weaned in the daytime (unless we have a bath together, which I try and avoid, but sometimes do if he is tired and fractious). He's always been a frequent waker, and used to require the boob in the night, but we'd managed to drop that and when/if he wakes in the night he's mostly happy to have me lie down next to him to go back to sleep, which is much better for me than bfing. He would then bf on waking - I still find this a bit irritating, but can bear it more when it's morning and we're all supposed to be awake, than in the night/early hours.
However, he's recently started demanding the boob again when he wakes at around 5am. I'm pregnant at the mo, and so am getting really irritated with him and this bfing. He used to accept me saying 'just one minute of milkies and then back to sleep' but this morning, and a few other mornings recently he totally refuses and gets very very angry at the suggestion that he stop (even when I do my usual explaining that the 'milkies' are tired/need a sleep etc).
I then get very angry, and explode and say all the wrong things. Some monster seems to take me over at that time of day, and I find myself being very cruel to him. I know logically that all the things I'm saying will probably just make him cling and want to bf more (tell him angrily that he's a big boy, not a baby, and i go on and on at him about how much I hate giving him 'milkies'), but it just makes me so angry I lose my temper.
Anyone had any experience of this? I was happy with extended bfing but expected it to fizzle out between three & four. He's four in May and so passionate about the boob that I'm worried he'll never stop. I saw the documentary with a woman feeding an 8 yr old, and whilst I believe that is up to her and her daughter, I really really don't want it to go on that long!
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Anyone had experience of getting a 3.5 yr old to give up bfing?
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Manoo · 25/01/2007 08:55
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25/01/2007 10:51
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