Newborn constantly feeding - help!

[Pagetta]

My DS2 is 5 days old and feeding allll the time. I'm just shattered.
When he was born he instantly fed for about 90 minutes! He had a tongue tie which was cut on day 2 but my nipples got shredded from so much feeding in that time so are very sore. Hes a lazy latcher and getting him to open his mouth wide is a challenge but we are making progress!
He is nursing SO much though I don't remember DS1 doing it! And it's not all suckling - he was weighed day 3 and was exact same as his birth weight so the feeding is doing him good!
Issue is me basically- im absolutely exhausted. He feeds every 1-2 hours. Last night he did stretch to 3 hours so I got a little shut eye. But in the day I'm just attached to him. It's upsetting DS1 who is 3 1/2 too as there's just no mummy time which is upsetting me in my tired emotional state.
He generally nurses for 10-15 mins at a time. If less than 10 he'll nurse again within the hour. 20 minutes I can get 2-3 hours from him.
Also If his latch gets lazy and I try to take him off to adjust him he falls asleep so then he'll be back on within an hour.
Basically wondered if others had had similar babies and when or how I can expect a bit longer between feeds? I'm really struggling
Any tips welcome xx

[Acardwithbigletters]

I'm sorry I don't have any tips but this sounds very normal for a new born. Hang in there and it will get much easier

[Coconut0il]

Congratulations on your DS2 OP. My DS2 was the same, latched on in the delivery room, lost hardly any weight but was attached to me constantly. I was able to go with it as my DS1 is 12 so could understand a bit more. I'm not sure how I would've coped if he had been younger.

I'm not sure what the best advice is..DS1 had one bottle a day for a longer stretch and so DP could take over for a bit but he didn't feed as often as DS2 anyway. I did introduce it quite early and still bf him to 18 months. DS2 was EBF till 8 weeks but then refused a bottle and I suppose expressing is still time consuming anyway...
A box of toys you can play with your DS1 on the settee while DS2 is feeding? Reading books with him? Watching a film together? Games on iPad? Sorry if these are rubbish ideas, just trying to think what I might do. It won't be this way for long.

It does get better. Slowly DS2 went longer between feeds and now at 10 months he can go 4 hours between. He slept through for the first time at 9 months.

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[NervousRider]

Ds2 was like this. I was ripped to shreads. He was weighted at 7 days by the midwife and he'd put on a lb! She immediately said he needs a dummy as he is basically using you (me!) as one.

I know it's not for everyone, but it was a godsend for us.

[Pagetta]

I was wondering about a dummy tbh but I'll see what MW says. You're always told 'you can't overfeed a BF baby' but I'm wondering if that's true now lol.

Books are a good idea might get 3yo a box of tricks for living room, just frustrating for him though poor kid.

[MinnowAndTheBear]

Congratulations on your new baby. Sticker books are good for your toddler: to them it feels as though you're doing an activity together, even though you're actually still feeding baby.
Bit confused about your post though - you're nursing for between 10-20mins at a time, with a 2-3hr break in between feeds? That doesn't seem like a very long feed for such a new baby. Both of mine would go for easily an hour or more at that age.

[Pagetta]

I guess that's part of the question - DS1 would feed for aaaages but was less 'regular - could be 4 hour gap or 20 minutes.
DS2 is much more routine from the off but if I could get him to feed for longer would be great so I could get a bit more sleep between feeds!