Okay so stats first - my baby is 16 weeks old, mixed fed at the moment but predominantly fed direct from breast about 6 feeds a day and one 5 is bottle of ebm. He also takes about 10 oz of formula in addition to this.
His current weight is 13.6 lbs. age is 16 weeks. Height is 66 cms and head circumference is 40 cm.
Why do I know his head circ you ask? Well he was measured on all these things by the HV today and she points out to me that -
- A 50th centile birth baby has gone to hovering between 25th and 9th
- His weight and height aren't in proportion (25/91 respectively)
- His head circumference has gone from 50th to 9th and there is evidence that this coupled with less than 40% of birthweight gained in first month of birth apparently links to reduced IQ.
I asked her what she recommends. She says the decision is mine but he needs more calories into him.
Now - when he was exclusively BF (I was very tired very hungry very lethargic all the time) it was the same story of a slow weight gain. We introduced those two bottles but frankly it's an ordeal to feed him anything more than 3 oz. Even breastfeeding is an ordeal unless he is asleep or sleepy and lying down.
When he breastfeeds I offer him both sides at least. He refuses the second. Milk flows out of the breast as he stimulates the let down and stops and laughs and bats the boob away. I cannot get more calories into him by offering him more boob or more often as he shouts and bats it away.
It's the same with the bottles. If he's sleepy he will have a bit if not he laughs at the bottle and bats it away. It's all very draining and being told by the HV that he is not becoming proportionate.
At this stage I don't want to return to exclusive BF. I frankly don't. I am happy to retain his 5/6/7 bfs daily - 3 of which happen very early in the morning and are excellent solid belly filling feeds involving lots of milk. I also do compressions and his little belly fills up. Beyond this I need him to actually take the bottles (10-12 oz on a good day)
He is fine in himself nappies etc. His height weight situation makes him look "dinky" beside other babies (words of another mum at the clinic) or "puny" (words of my darling SIL).
So what should I do. I go back to work in April and the plan was to retain morning and night bfs till he is a year old but if he won't be interested in milk whichever source it comes form boob or bottle and laughs and bats things away and continues to gain slowly then what the f should I do?!?