Sorry this is so long, I don't know what to do :(
DS is 8 weeks old and has developed this sort of stressed out despairing scream lately, which makes me v sad. Did it all day yesterday from about 11am.
Have put this in infant feeding as DS diagnosed with mild tongue tie last week and am wondering if anything could be improved by getting it snipped - better feeds = better sleeps? He does slide off, takes in air, clicks, milk pours out his nose, has shallow latch (lactation consultant showed me how to do deep latch but it doesn't last long), slow weight gain etc.
Trying to be very baby-led but it seems I can't recognise his sleep cues and he tends to be awake all afternoon. So yesterday tried to have him sleep 90 mins after waking up. We've got into the habit of walking or feeding to sleep so he can't seem to just be left to fall asleep. I know he's still tiny though! But he manages it fine at night
Yesterday was particularly bad, don't think we've had a day where he's cried this much before (still, could be worse!). That's just coincidence as of course I started logging his day before I knew the day would be bad.
Ideally would ultimately do the EASY sort of structure to the day but he falls asleep feeding so there's not much chance for the 'active'/playtime part of the day. So then I worry he's not getting enough stimulation.
Anyway here is the gist of it:
12:30am I pumped
1:15 fed
2:00 slept
4:45 fed left boob for 1 hr 15 mins [shocked]
6:00 fed I pumped left boob while feeding right (for 1hr 15 mins again!!)
7:15 slept
7:50 I pumped right boob
10:30 woke up (3 hour nap!!?? Unheard of!! :) )
10:35 fed
11:20 was screaming on boob so took him off :-/ milk coming out of nose initially but then seemed he couldn't get anything. So 11:20 = play time
11:40 slept in DH's arms
11:55 woke up, quiet time then played/rocked with DH
12:20 fed
12:50 slept (popped off boob by himself, sleeping, so decided to let him sleep)
12:53 I had to have some lunch so put him on sofa to sleep (watched by DH)
12:57 woke up, quiet time which turned into playtime with DH when it was clear he wasn't going to go back to sleep
1:30 fed fussing and screechy again so fed - should I not do that? Initially wouldn't latch then did but v waily, kicky and scratchy.
2:00 slept fell asleep feeding, I let him as I thought maybe he needed sleep more than food?? But then
2:05 fed woke up crying again, had trouble latching but eventually did. V lazy sleepy feed.
2:15 slept fell asleep feeding again
2:30 transferred him out of my arms so I could do stuff - we moved house 2 days ago
2:35 woke up, I remembered about the sling and put him in it hoping he'd go back to sleep
2:45 DS hated sling (should I have tried for longer? Sometimes he loves it) so put him on changing mat which he normally loves - screamed. Left him with DH to try and settle him as I'm certain he's v tired.
3:00 fed as DS was doing the absolutely beside himself, not breathing sort of screaming, again think he needs a sleep but BF is all that calms him
3:40 slept
3:45 woke up, eyes snapped open and that was that
3:50 fed other side, don't know why, don't even know what I'm doing by this point, have lost the plot
3:54 slept - popped off boob by himself and was dozing
4:05 woke up
4:15 went for walk to get DS to sleep
4:30 fell asleep
6:10 home and DS woke up
6:25 fed
7:20 he seemed to want to keep feeding but was just crying, scratching and not latching, so did bathtime - seemed happy enough
7:35 fed
7:45 formula top up
8:45 quiet time
9:35 slept
9:50 I pumped
(2am feed)
Hadn't had enough time to pump enough for his top up so had to have a formula top up (lactation consultant and HV said this is fine).
I don't want to have to hold or walk him to sleep but whenever I put him down drowsy he just wakes up.
My old Health Visitor just rang by coincidence and said she doesn't know what a slight tongue tie means and there would be nothing to cut, and if it's slight it won't affect his feeding, and maybe I should express for every feed.
Today feels like it will be even worse, he'll hardly latch at all so far :( His latch just seems to be getting worse and worse, milk running out his mouth and nose, I just don't know what I'm doing wrong :(
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BreeVDKamp · 20/07/2015 09:51
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