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DD2 is 13 weeks and I stopped BF when she was 6 weeks old. I stopped for a variety of reasons: she had been very fussy, lots of crying, arching her back etc and when I took her to the Drs he diagnosed reflux and thrush in her mouth. The gaviscon was very tricky to administer when BF and experience from DD1 told me thrush was a nightmare to get rid of so that was one reason. DD1 also didn't like me BF and kept asking when she could have a bottle so I could play with her again. DD2 fed a lot and as I was never sure how much she was getting I always felt like I had to offer in case she was hungry. She would also never settle for me and always rooted for food when I had hold of her. So I made the decision to switch and I have to say the difference was amazing! She was much more settled and even now is such a content and smiley baby. She roughly feeds every 3 hours now and is only up once in the night for a feed.
But I feel so sad about it all. I only managed to BF DD1 for 3 weeks and I was so determined for it to work this time. I wonder if I gave up too easily or if the change in DD2 would have happened anyway if I had just persevered. I feel so jealous when I see other people BF and think if she had been my first I would have happily sat on the couch all day feeding but obviously couldn't with DD1 to look after. I just can't get past these feelings though and every day I think about it and feel sad. I don't want to look back at this time and remember how sad I felt. As I said, I bottle fed DD1 and she has turned out fine but I just really wanted this to work. How do I stop feeling guilty and sad? I'm just so drained from thinking about it all the time.
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Keepsmiling1 · 13/07/2015 20:27
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