I am ebf my second ds. BF my first DS who is now 2.5 to 14mo and now ebf my 5mo. DS1 was 9lb 13oz at birth, and DS2 was 9lb 2oz but 1.5 week before edd so probably wouldve weighed the same. Both born on 75th centile.
I have taken time to educate myself on the ins and outs of bf on demand and have always been very baby led. I have always gone with the flow of cluster feeding and night feeds (which DS2 does a lot). I feed to sleep and DS2 doesn't have a dummy (DS1 did) so I offer a feed at every whimper practically.
However DS1 stopped gaining weight for 2 months from 3-5 months and then it was a slog to get him to even gain a few ounces before he started solids at 6mo. DS2 hasnt been quite as bad, he has always gained but has slowly dropped two centiles since birth and is now on 25th centile. He has gained 7.5ounces only in the past 19 days.
I was so disappointed getting him weighed today. I am exhausted from not having more than 2 hours sleep in a row in 5 months and not having a break and I feel that it isnt even paying off.
I honestly think ny breasts just must be crap! I never got engorged or felt my milk noticably come in either time, never leaked, and only one of my breasts becomes engorged if I miss a feed (which is worrying).
I have these lovely big healthy babies and I cant sustain them. I have taken every bit of advice for successful bf and feel a bit angry and frustrated that my babies don't thrive. I wonder how much more effort I have to put in to make it work. I could express between feeds, I could spend hours trying to get a perfect latch, I could spend lots of time trying to get ds to stay on the breast longer...but I am already spending way more time and headspace on feeding than if I was bottle feeding. I just want to enjoy my baby for once. I also have a toddler I want to enjoy time with.
Is there something obvious I am missing and doing wrong?? I desperately want to make bf work well and I want to feed well into toddlerhood, rather than limping to a halt like I did last time...
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YouMaySayImADreamer · 15/06/2015 19:13
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