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Racheyg Sun 31-May-15 20:11:29

Hi all,
My ds2 is 3 days old and was quite weighty 10lb (they thought he was 10lb 12oz but the midwife converted wrong confused anyway I struggled breastfeeding my 22 month old ds and I was determined to get it right with ds2, he wouldn't feed on the left breast.

When I had skin to skin with ds2 I got him straight on my left and he feed well. Now we are home my left nipple is cracked and very sore and he is refusing it.

He feeds very well on my right and I feed him every 1- 1 1/2 hrs on demand. I have tried a nipple shield but ds2 just headbutted it and got upset.

Would love some advice xx

inaboxwithafox Sun 31-May-15 20:13:03

No advice but flowers as a bump. Congrats on little one.

HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs Sun 31-May-15 20:15:23

Sorry no real advice other than plenty of lansinoh ointment and keep trying!
Hopefully someone knowledgable will be along soon. Congratulations on your new baby.

CraftyCrafterson Sun 31-May-15 20:16:46

Congratulations on your new baby thanks

Express small amounts of milk (few drops) from your cracked nipple and leave to air dry. This should help speed up healing.
If he continues to refuse you can successfully feed with one breast? Would that be an option?
Have you tried expressing from the refused one?
Just keep an eye out for blocked ducts and mastitis if you're not feeding from it.

Racheyg Sun 31-May-15 20:35:39

Thanks everyone smile
I have hot nipple cream and it's starting to become my best friend grin

I don't mind feeding on one but will he get enough from just one?

Smartiepants79 Sun 31-May-15 20:40:56

I'm fairly sure you can feed just fine from one Breast. My Dd always favoured one. It was bigger and I ended up using it more. It never affected how much she drank. I believe your body will just adjust the supply.
I would perhaps let that nipple heal a bit and then try again as it's still very early days and you might find he takes to it as he gets better at feeding generally.
The first few days are hard work. Good luck and congratulations.

Twine88 Sun 31-May-15 20:42:42


I would suggest expressing the other side and keep lathering on the skin healing cream! My dd2 had a huge appetitie and fed for hours after birth, which left me in a lot of pain with engorgement and cracked nipples, Medela do a nipple cream and it was the best I found. I also found some ease in bf in bath with the baby, It seemed to be a relaxing environment for us both and my milk let down much easier.

Ds1 would not latch on without using nipples shields, which were a godsend after days of Latch stress, so maybe try them again or a different size - or maybe once baby issettled on the right side, see if you can ease him off and quickly see if he will latch onto the left side...he might be clued into your plan straight away and refuse, but he could also be in enough of a milk trance to just continue suckling.

Sorry cannot be more help, I am sure someone will come along who has been through the same!

ishallnamehimsquishy Sun 31-May-15 20:54:10

I used to try the rugby ball hold with newborn DS2 to see if I could con him into thinking it was his preferred side.

He had a forceps delivery so I wasn't sure if he was uncomfortable lying on that side.

It seemed to work and he was happy feeding from both after a few days.

I also had a cracked nipple with DS1 thanks to a tongue tie and expressed from that side for a day to let it heal a bit.

Hope you get on ok and congratulations. smile

Quodlibet Sun 31-May-15 21:00:59

Firstly well done you!
Keep pumping off the bad side - you can freeze it and offer a bottle of EBM in a couple of weeks to give yourself a longer break between feeds.

It might be worth seeing if you can get a BF specialist to check your hold/latch on that side - I saw a brilliant woman at a local children's centre. BF cafes are good too. It might be that you are holding him differently and he's not as comfortable? Or the flow could be different making him work harder? Either way, from what I know it's fine to feed off just one side. Or you might find with a bit of perseverance and/or expert help you can encourage him back onto the left side.

CraftyCrafterson Sun 31-May-15 21:03:30

Feeding on one side will be fine if you end up doing it but second others ideas - switching positions, try feeding on that side after favourite side so baby isn't as desperate for food.
You may just find he changes his mind again and is fine with it!

Weekipper Sun 31-May-15 21:09:09

My DD is 4 weeks old and she shredded my nipples within the day. I use lots of lansinoh and contacted the breastfeeding support network. I've had a bf councillor come twice to the house to check and adjust my latch. She's been excellent. She also diagnosed me and LO with thrush and gave me loads of support. If you have them in your area, I'd really recommend them.

Hillijx Sun 31-May-15 21:18:01

Second the rugby hold idea, I had real trouble on one side with dd1, think it was a combination of her and me not being as competent holding her that way round so the rugby hold fixed it. Get a bf expert in as you will still be under midwife care so they can sort it, but don't stress and just keep trying it, 3 days is really early and the first few weeks are tough. More and more cream, both mine took about 4 weeks to stop hurting but once you get through it it's super easy. Congratulations flowers

HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs Sun 31-May-15 21:38:00

YY to the bath idea. I used to express in the bath. Worked especially well if I could hear baby cooing or crying in the background.

HappyAsASandboy Sun 31-May-15 21:39:28

Congratulations on the birth of your second baby smile

You soundly key you're doing really well. You are obviously worried about the issues you faced feeding your first baby, but you sound like you're finding ways to successfully feed this one, even just three days in smile

Firstly - you absolutely can feed a baby successfully, and exclusivly, from one side if it comes to it. Your boob will produce enough milk on a demand basis, so if you feed from just one then what I taken will be replaced.

Secondly, three days is so so early. You almost certainly won't have to resort to feeding from just one side. If the sore side is too sore to feed from, try expressing a bit (either catching it to feed later or just wiping up, don't worry about it), and just feed from the non-sore side. You might well find that the boob you feed from gets enormous compared to the non-feed side, but don't worry - it'll even out if you can eventually feed from the sore side, or the difference in size will really reduce once feeding becomes established. Either way, you won't be so lopsided forever.

I was an extreme example of one-sided-feeding-in-the-early-days because I had a cracked nipple at about a week and was feeding twins. I expressed from the sore side for a week while it healed, meanwhile feeding both babies from the ok side. I did have one enormous boob for a few weeks, but after that initial week to help healing I successfully fed from both sides.

In contrast, my sister had very sore nipples when feeding her newborn. She and her baby quickly favoured one side, and she's subsequently fed him from just that side. He is now three years old and still feeding, and while the lopsided was was noticeable for a few months, mostly her noobs looked about equal.

It really feels overwhelming at the time, because we all want to do the right thing and do the best for our babies. But our bodies really are amazing - at three days the best thing to do is give lots of boob access to the baby, express gently from any really sore nipples, and try to have faith that the boob-baby relationship will somehow work things out. I know that it's hard to believe that, but if you can keep putting the baby on a boob (either boob!) then you'll be well on your way to feeding them successfully smile

Congratulations and enjoy those newborn snuggles smile

Racheyg Sun 31-May-15 23:23:48

Thanks for all your replies.

He is just so hungry today, I think he has fed every hour. I know I shouldn't let it get me down.

I have been expressing on my left and got about 40ml which he guzzled in quick time.

I have had to top him up with 20ml of formula tonight. Would this make a difference? I so badly want to breast feed xx

Twine88 Mon 01-Jun-15 08:14:45

I hope you had a reasonable night?

Do you have local bf support that you can contact for advice? I know other have recommended them and I agree they were a massive support.

AnythingNotEverything Mon 01-Jun-15 08:21:09

I hope after hourly feeds yesterday that your milk has come in today. Watch out for the hormone crash!

You've had great advice above. Just wanted to say congratulations smile

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Racheyg Tue 02-Jun-15 11:09:09

Hi all, thanks for your great advice.

My midwife came round yesterday and helped with the left. It's not 100% as he still refuses it every now and then but he has fed on it smile

Now waiting for milk supply to finally come in and maybe the hourly feeds might reduce to two hourly smile xx

Springtimemama Tue 02-Jun-15 12:13:59

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