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22 month old very upset that milk is gone during pregnancy, but won't stop trying...any experiences?

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catellington Sun 28-Dec-14 21:39:47

Pretty much that...26 weeks pg, don't think I've had much if any milk for quite a while, but rather than lose interest and give up, my 22 month old dd has just become more persistent and more upset as the weeks have gone by.

When I tell her the milk is gone, she sometimes (bedtimes usually) gets extremely distressed, throws herself around, kicks, hits, bites and just keeps shouting 'mummy mort (milk)' and 'no mummy no'. Her sleep has gone really bad over the last couple of weeks,she has started talking and shouting in her sleep, and waking for hours at a time screaming.

Does anyone have any experience of toddlers self weaning (or not) during pregnancy? Or any sympathy welcome!

Of course the breastfeeding thing could be a red herring, could just be a developmental thing, coinciding with milk supply dropping.

catellington Mon 29-Dec-14 02:17:34

Anyone? My thread title could have been a bit more snappy I suppose

wigglylines Mon 29-Dec-14 02:21:03

How do you know the milk is gone?

Gunpowder Mon 29-Dec-14 02:25:09

Oh goodness cat no advice, but lots of sympathy. I am 22 weeks and my DD hasn't been put off yet. It's really starting to hurt! If I tell her she can't feed she has huuuge tantrums.

The only thing that makes me feel better is lots of friends who didn't feed in pregnancy said their DC became much more clingy and demanding in pregnancy, so maybe feeding is just a way our DC express this? confused

Gunpowder Mon 29-Dec-14 02:28:24

I mean the feeding has become more important because we're pregnant if that makes sense, so doubly frustrating supply has dipped.

catellington Mon 29-Dec-14 03:16:56

wiggly because she tells me so .... 'Mort gone' 'mort empty'!

catellington Mon 29-Dec-14 03:20:47

gunpowder thank you for the sympathy. I do think she knows something is afoot so yes perhaps she is unsettled anyway. If I ever give in, she happily spends ages going back and forth between boobs, 5 mins on each, as if she thinks one time the milk will magically reappear!
Yes I'm finding it extremely uncomfortable too...hoping she will lose interest but think she will need a push.

SoftSheen Mon 29-Dec-14 03:22:09

How does she react if you offer her a cup of warm cows milk? Or even (weak) hot chocolate?

catellington Mon 29-Dec-14 03:50:58

softsheen she will try to alternate cup with boob and will persist until I stop the routine, sometimes she will accept when I call a stop but others she just goes ballistic

She doesn't like hot chocolate...strange child!!!

redspottydress Mon 29-Dec-14 04:15:34

I weaned my 25 month old twins as my milk had also dried up due to being 24 weeks. We set aside a week and offered water every time they woke up. One dealt with it better than the other. One developed a habit of putting her hand down my top instead.

redspottydress Mon 29-Dec-14 04:16:27

We also acknowledged that Mummy found it sad too.

catellington Mon 29-Dec-14 07:00:32

Thank you redspotty. I think we will give it a go, dh can take over a bit. Then perhaps we can move onto getting her to sleep in her own bed...

rememberingnothing Mon 29-Dec-14 07:16:18

DD1 (from 14 to 16m) persisted and persisted. I read "adventures in tandem breastfeeding" which has a good section about breastfeeding during pregnancy. At about week 37 there must've been something starting again as she got very enthusiastic again. When my milk came in again she thought it was brilliant.

Yorkville Mon 29-Dec-14 07:36:03

I had a similar experience to remembering, my milk dried up around 18 weeks and my 2.4year old kept asking to check(!) whether the milk had come back. She did this once/twice a week and about 28 weeks she said the milk was back!

Yorkville Mon 29-Dec-14 07:38:57

And adventures in tandem nursing is well worth reading, my dd2 is 6 months now and I found it invaluable in those first few weeks when I had questions about supply etc.

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