Sorry to post again for reassurance-this is all new to me!
Am engorged as milk came in yesterday and DS finds it difficult to latch on to monster boobs and was getting frustrated and frantic really quickly and then spending ages trying to latch and not managing it. Last night out of desperation I gave him about 30ml of formula to calm him down and then he managed to latch on, so that led to today's 'plan' (only formulated after several more extremely frustrating feeds) which went as follows...
- Managed to express about 6oz with a pump which took out the engorgement and some of the lumpiness. Took about an hour with a Medela swing.
- Fed DS 30ml expressed milk and he then latched on but only on one side for about 15 mins before falling asleep. Couldn't interest him in the other side. Argh.
- Expressed more from the side he hadn't fed from as didn't want that boob to end up engorged again. Got another 4oz (including a little bit from the boob he did feed from too) in about 45 mins.
- Next feed-gave DS 10ml expressed milk and then convinced him into staying awake for 15 mins on one boob, switched to the other and managed about 6 mins before he fell asleep. Gave him another 10ml expressed milk and put him back on second breast until he fell asleep again, about another 10 mins.
- Give or take some of the timings, repeat.
I'm happy that giving him little laps of expressed milk from a cup both wakes him up and keeps him calm enough to then deal with actually latching on but I'm worried that he doesn't stay awake long enough on the breasts and that he'll get reliant on the expressed milk and lose interest in actually feeding from me. Is that likely? Should I try giving him smaller amounts of expressed milk in the hopes that it has the same effect but he doesn't get so sleepy?
Yesterday I experimented with letting him just stay on one boob for as long as he wanted and he managed a max of about 25 mins, but then I think that partly led to the agony of engorgement I had overnight as they weren't both being drained at the same rate.
So what's better-let him drain one as much as poss at the expense of the other (or alternate feeds from one and expressing on the other which is very time consuming and noisy especially at night), or aim for as long as possible on both, which is hard to gauge in advance of course (and goes against my instincts to switch if he's actually feeding) but seems to be about 15 mins on both?
Sorry that's so long.