My dd (18mo) had 100% tongue tie, managers to fb her for 4 days before the damage to my nipples was so severe I was told to stop or I would potentially need surgery. Fantastic so stopped, and got referred for the TT to be cut, because it was also affecting bottle feeding. Waiting list for TT operation was 8 weeks, so no choice but to give up on bf. emotionally found it horrifically hard because I'd never imagined I wouldnt bf my children..
Just had ds (8 days old) and he is also tongue tied, not as severly. Managed to bf for 5 days before the pain got so horrific I had a panic attack when he was due his next feed. Decided that bf wasn't the best for my family.. They all need me to be okay, which I wasn't when trying to bf. I really wanted ds tongue tie cut, even though he's now bottle fed. I panicked in the bf clinic today (where they do referrals) because they said they only cut them now if baby is still bf/ mother is expressing with the view to going back to bf.. I lied. God, I feel awful.
I said that I was expressing for 80% of his feeds, the other 20% was formula top ups. No probs she said, when we cut the TT (on Tuesday, clearly shorter wait times ATM!) he will go to the breast straight after and you can leave once we witness a successful feed to check he's okay....
It won't be successful, my milk is basically gone- and I don't think bf is right for my family. My dd needs me, dp can help with bottles, and honestly I just don't want to and I feel horrific about it.
So not only am I not doing the best for ds, I've also lied to get the op done in the first place. What do I do? I feel horrific. Sorry it's so long and pathetic :(
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PinkAndBlueBedtimeBears · 14/08/2014 16:14
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