Please Advise! My friend had a baby 6 weeks ago tomorrow. The baby is exclusively breastfed apart from 2 tiny bottles of formula he had in hospital as his weight was continuing to drop 5 days after he was born. He was 7lbs when born, chubby cheeks, squishy, gorgeous little man. He had jaundice after he was born but the hospital didn't make a big deal of it. He finally got back to his birth weight at 5 weeks and put on another 160g the following week. I've had two babies myself, big 9 and 10lb ones so I've spent a long time really questioning whether what I see now is just a normal baby as opposed to my big fat ones.. but seriously, he has wrinkled skin on his forehead, his legs are skinny, he doesn't have the squishy cheeks or oopmhy little face. He's very unsettled, not sleeping and I know it's cause he's hungry! They're first time parents and I've been there, lost shattered from tiredness, not knowing what day of the week it is, you get lost and you can't see the wood for the trees.. in an effort to restore order they tried restricting his feeds a la you know who, GF, but when I discovered that I begged them to stop and take him to bed for a week for skin to skin non stop feeding.. and gave them a big handwritten note on boosting your milk fast. I don't know whether they took any notice of that.. at his last weigh in he was on the 0.4th percentile at 6 weeks having been at the 50th when he was born. Formula is absolutely not an option and to that I saw you go girl, but only if things are ok with the BF ing and I don't think they are! I'm a massive breastfeeding advocate but it's hard work and it's hours of lying down feeling like a milk machine but you can't commit to it in words and then not do EVERYTHING to be sure it's working. A lactation consultant has told them he needs even just one bottle of formula a day but they won't listen. They live somewhere, not in the UK, where baby clinics and health visitors aren't easy to find. They have a 6 week check up soon which i hoping if the GP is worth his salt he'll pick up on this problem.
Please please let me know if anyone has been in mine or their positions. The couple are so lovely and of course want the best for him but they seem to be putting their values before his needs at the moment and it's desperately hard to watch it happen. And I say that as as a woman who did everything I could to BF my own kids and would support someone else in that choice. They say there's no problem and that someone has to be in that percentile but with an over 6ft dad and average mom he's not the one who should be there. Please please help!
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fifi08 · 12/06/2014 07:29
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