DD (dc1) is 9 days. She was a good weight (8lbs), dropped 7% by day 3, had gone up an oz by day five but as of yesterday had not gained any further. She has so far been EBF but rather than getting easier, BF is getting harder and harder and I'm now pretty scared she will actually have lost again at her next weigh-in on day ten. She is very sleepy (presumably not helped by not enough calories?) and would often go 4+ hours unless I wake her. When she's in the breast her latch is (I'm told) a bit shallow so she's not very efficient and we have in occasion spent 45 minutes on just one boob and she gives up before its fully empty. But it's getting worse - she constantly fusses and when/if I do eventually get her latched she'll nod off and now seems to be struggling to do more than 10-15 mins even with lots of waking up. It's just taken me 40 mins to get her to latch followed by ten minutes of half-hearted sucking. The midwife has given us a two hourly feeding programme complete with expressed top ups but we're struggling with that too - for one thing she just doesn't want to feed that often. And I'm so far not able to express the additional 20-30mls she's supposed to have with each feed.
I'm getting desperate. Things seemed to be going fairly well at the start and not sure why it's all gone wrong. DH and I are rowing as he wants to move to formula. I'm desperate not to but now at my wit's end. I so wanted to EBF for a few months at least but I'm now feeling like a total failure that I probably won't even make tro weeks. Have spent half the night in frustrated tears. Been to a BF cafe and counsellor where they told me how to sort the latch but I/wejust can't seem to make it work. She might latch and suck once or twice then will pull away. I've got big saggy boobs do feeling like I'm physically just not right.
Please - any advice at all?
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highlove · 20/03/2014 04:21
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