Okay, I am starting to struggle with settling my 3.5mo DTs. They are EBF, on demand, putting on weight well (12lb 2 and 11lb 7, from starting weights of 6lb 4 and 6lb 3). I generally feed them on a tandem feeding cushion at the same time so that they stay roughly on the the same schedule during the day ( am not partic routine driven but I do like them to be awake and asleep roughly at the same time to avoid going entirely insane).. They nap 3 times a day - generally on me (ie they fall asleep feeding) or in the pram/sling/car. Both have v occasionally fallen asleep spontaneously but it's v rare. They feed every 2-3 hours, occasionally longer but I aim towards the 2 hr end of the spectrum in the hope they got tanked up at night.
I can cope with all this but the nighttime routine is currently killing me. Normal approach is nappy free time, bath (they enjoy it, I don't mind it and it tires them out), then dressed Nd into sleeping bags, I take them downstairs for the last feed, curtains closed, tv on low, generally it's just me and them so no distractions really. They feed and feed and feed... And feed some more. There is tons of 'comfort' sucking - like they could keep going for hours. If I try to take them off after 20-30 mins of comfort sucking 50% of the time they ping awake or one does (normally DTS) and trying to move one sleeping baby and one awake baby does not work. Then I end up with 2 awake babies, DTD is tired and really truly wants to sleep but needs another 30 mins feeding/comfort sucking to settle while DTS generally has had enough of a power nap to be in squealing loud wriggly form.
I can't leave them to cry - it's just not something I can do but DH is rarely home for bedtime so I have to manage on my own.
Ay hints or words of wisdom? When they fall asleep contentedly on me and I manage to transfer them to bed (no mean feat!) I can see that this is best but tonight, DH is just home and I have left him downstairs with DTS while I take DTD upstairs and try to feed her into submission and she has been feeding since 6.30! Then I will have to do it all over again with him...
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FreeButtonBee · 22/05/2013 20:22
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