I had a visit from HV today as 1st birth contact following birth of 2nd child. DD is doing great - past birth weight in 4 days, EBF, has gained 350g since birth. My HV's main concern though was that I am still feeding DS (2yr5mo). She asked me what my plan was to get him stopped and was suspicious that I'm keeping it up because I don't feel ready to stop.
FWIW he was reluctantly weaned during pg because I couldn't bear it, I felt physically revolted as well as deeply uncomfortable. Happily the Oxytocin is doing its job and it's fine to feed him now - which isn't to say I'm overjoyed that he's a boob monster once more, though I do think he's the key to my success with DD as nothing can stimulate supply quite like a hungry toddler! He's having a lot atm but most children experience some sort of 'regression' at the birth of a sibling, right? I'm assuming it's temporary and emotional and as he steadies to the idea the bfing will fade again and we'll just wean when he's no longer interested.
Anyway I feel quite pissed that this woman was discouraging bfing and did remind her of the WHO guidelines, and also said I hardly thought rejecting DS for bfing when the baby got it would help him feel well-disposed to the changes that have obviously really rocked him (he's very worried and quite clingy and tearful when not actively chucking stuff at the baby). Would you complain about this woman doling out her prejudice/ opinion as advice or chalk it up to general HV shitness? (Last HV was ace - gutted that she retired)
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Sparklyboots · 22/05/2013 00:49
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