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The dr made me feel bad today :(

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SalagadooLamagicaboo Thu 16-May-13 12:36:44

Dd is 19 months old and still breastfeeding.

We recently returned from abroad (a "at risk" country) and dd has developed a severe diaorreah.

So worried I took her twice to a&e in the past 2 days, the dr said not to worry as long as she is still drinking fluid (bf being absolutely fine with him) but to bring her back if she starts vomiting.

She vomited twice during the night, so I took her back this morning to a&e.

I saw a different dr who said to me that bf is useless after 6 months and why am I still doing it.

He said we have to force fluid down her with a syringe and that's it, no more bm.

Then the nurse came and dd was crying from being force fed, the nurse said not to comfort her just let her cry.

I asked to leave at that point but they wouldn't let me and said if I leave now they would report me to social services for neglect. They wanted me to force feed her the drink before leaving.

I did what they asked and then left asap.

I am now back home feeling terrible, and wondering am I really neglecting my child by bf her?

EuroShaggleton Thu 16-May-13 13:35:55

Complain and change drs.

This all sounds very odd.

SalagadooLamagicaboo Thu 16-May-13 13:38:06

Euro this was in a&e so the chances of me seeing this dr again are hopefully very slim

xylem8 Thu 16-May-13 13:43:17

Maybe she is too weak to BF sufficiently to replenish fluids at the moment.
Probably the BF was making things worse for her because diahhorea diminishes lactase so lactose is best avoided completely during a bout of diahhorrea.He probably thought this outweighed the benfits of BF at her age.
But he should have put things more diplomatically.

WouldBeHarrietVane Thu 16-May-13 13:57:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

tiktok Thu 16-May-13 14:04:32

Dear me. Breastfeeding is the 'Treatment' of choice in diarrhoea - it is the right thing to offer (there is NO evidence that because it has lactose in it should be avoided - this would only be in serious ongoing diagnosed cases of lactose intolerance. There are several guidelines on this and if you need to hunt them down, re-post and I will send you links.

And as for telling you not to comfort your child - what planet are they on?

I can understand you may not wish to complain formally at present but when the dust settles you may think again. It is dreadful that this doctor remains unchallenged to make other mothers and babies feel bad.

At the very least, write to the head of A&E, the breastfeeding lead in your area (the maternity unit will know who it is), and explain what happened.

What you did and said is not grounds for involving social services, and you don't need to fear that.

WouldBeHarrietVane Thu 16-May-13 14:04:52

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SalagadooLamagicaboo Thu 16-May-13 15:34:54

The more I think of what happened, the more I get angry that I let them treating me that way.

I will concentrate on dd getting better for now, but once she is recovered I will make a formal complaint

MonstersDontCry Thu 16-May-13 15:39:43

I would seriously be making a complaint. WHO guidelines are bf until at least two!

MonstersDontCry Thu 16-May-13 15:40:12

And hope your DD gets better soon.

tiktok Thu 16-May-13 15:44:27

It's highly likely the hospital will have a breastfeeding policy. But beyond that, the doctor's own practice and knowledge is way out of date.

Finding out local policy and quoting it will be more effective than quoting WHO guidelines, I think.

WoTmania Thu 16-May-13 15:45:46

What a distressing situation for both you and your DD. Please do complain - the dr needs some extra training breastmilk isn't 'useless beyond 6 months' just for starters and that could be very damaging misinformation if he said it to for example a first time mum of an 8 mo.

WouldBeHarrietVane Thu 16-May-13 15:46:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

FannyFifer Thu 16-May-13 15:51:04

Why didn't you make a GP appointment?

weebarra Thu 16-May-13 15:51:23

Please think about complaining. My DS2 had a vomiting bug when he was 2 and the only thing he could keep down was breastmilk. The GP told me that it was the only reason he wasn't on a drip in hospital. You are not a bad mum!

SalagadooLamagicaboo Thu 16-May-13 17:34:30


I called my surgery as soon as I got of the plane on Monday, I took her to a&e Tuesday, Wednesday and today because she was getting worst,

We are still waiting for the stool analyse results (from Monday) to know exactly what is wrong with her.

Will look into the local policy when she is better

VisualiseAHorse Thu 16-May-13 19:07:18

If you want to leave hospital, they should have asked you to sign a 'waiver' stating that you left against their wishes and if anything were to happen to your baby it would be your 'fault'.

(I demanded to leave the big hospital when DS was 4 days old - they wanted me to stay in and BF him - we were having so much trouble BF and I couldn't see how staying on a noisy ward with 13 other ladies and their new babies would help - I had to sign this waiver).

TwitchyTail Thu 16-May-13 20:17:05

Doctors know nothing about breastfeeding. I should know, I'm a doctor. We get about an hour on it at medical school if we're lucky hmm The experienced folk on here know far, far more.

Email your experience to the hospital's PALS department, then forget about those idiots and enjoy bfeeding your daughter until you both decide the time is right to stop.

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