DS is 18m and still bf. He feeds usually 3 times a day - when he wakes, before his nap and before bed. He rarely fusses to be fed, and indeed will happily miss either of the first 2 feeds eg some mornings dh just gets him with him and gives him breakfast and I don't feed him until nap time, and sometimes if he has fallen asleep in car or pushchair he just goes straight in to his cot for his nap without a feed. (In fact today dh got up with him AND he fell asleep in the car, so I have not fed him today at all yet!)
So really, it doesn't impact on our lives particularly. Its not like he has to be fed, he eats well and manages quite happily without it. I haven't not fed him at bedtime yet, but last night for the first time I fed him before his bath, rather than straight before he goes in to his cot, and dh did the rest of bedtime and got him to sleep with not too much trouble. So ds isn't reliant on it either.
DH is making more and more noise about when I am going to stop feeding ds altogether. His one and only reason for this is because he thinks its weird to feed older babies. He knows about the WHO guidelines etc, but he still doesn't like it (despite the fact he never even watches me feed ds and as I say, it doesn't get in the way of anything either)
I personally would like to carry on until ds is at least 2, and see how we go from there. But I also realise that (health benefits aside) this is probably more for me than for ds as I think he would probably be ok about stopping.
I feel that I should however, be respectful (for want of a better word) of dh's views as well. It basically comes down to he wants me to stop and I don't want to stop.
What do I do?!
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tory79 · 01/04/2013 15:38
It sounds like he feels a bit silly about his "reasons" tbh. DS is very little still.
Assuming he knows about WHO recommendations and worldwide weaning averages, do you think he envies the special relationship bf gives you and DS? Perhaps you could play up the Special Father-Son things that they have together, and keep bf as just one of the many things you do for DS that just happens to be impossible for anyone else.
Or perhaps ask him to consider the practicalities of enforced parent-led weaning. How precisely would he like you to stop? I recommend sending you away on holiday for at least a fortnight, preferably somewhere hot with lots of cocktails, while he parents alone. 
Thanks both.
EauRouge no he is not open to the idea of natural term breastfeeding in any way shape or form. I think he really just can't get past it being 'weird'. He has no other reason, although he tried to say wouldn't I like it if I had more freedom etc (no is the answer to that 
)
Really I just wish I could find a way to persuade him otherwise, but I don't think that is going to happen!
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Dear Mr Tory79, it's not weirded to feed an older child, I know several very ordinary totally non lentil weaving women including an accountant, a biologist and a doctor who have BF their babies to at least 3.5 and some to 5 years old and beyond.
Having myself BF DD2 until well after she started school I can assure you it's just natural and feels right. BF doesn't feel sexy, its not something to be jealous of.
If your wife and DC want to cary on you should support them. You don't have to tell the neighbours or your mother 
so you don't need to be embarrassed.
Oh and extended BFing certainly doesn't make the child any more 'babyish' DD2 was far more social mature and far more grown up in her attitude to life than DD1who gave up BFing at 5 months.
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