Help! Periods not coming back(41 Posts)
It's not mean at all - just a sign that you are both getting ready to leave his babyhood behind and start a new, gorgeous phase of toddlerhood and independence. You are doing something to be proud of - gently easing your DS from one stage into the next.
I felt bad packing my then toddler off to sleep at his grandparents (I was getting desperate for sleep as he didn't believe in sleeping --for 3 years--). I felt like I was pushing him away for my own benefit. But we planned carefully, took time to prepare ourselves and DS had a wonderful time in the end. In the short term I got a little sleep, in the longer term he has repeated the experience often and has built a very special relationship with his DGPs
Lost you are doing really well, it's hard breaking routines that appear to be working well. Your DS is very lucky to have such a patient and thoughtful mum.
I'm crossing my fingers for the speedy arrival of your periods . Good luck.
Actually I notice all of the above involve the help of other people. This wasn't intentional, but when we started cutting down BFing it was because we discovered DP could put DS to bed fine on the rare occasions I wasn't there, and the lack of BFing didn't seem to be a problem when I wasn't there, so once we'd sussed this, DP started alternating bedtimes with me.
"I think he sees it as his way of reconnecting with me."
I can really identify with that. DS was 14mo when I went back to work and it was our way of reconnecting. I used to feed him at the CMs before taling him home. After a while (I forget how long) we stopped doing this, mainly because of lack of time.
I'm not sure what to suggest though!
Might the following be worth a try?
- Asking your nanny to start feeding DS lunch, and you join them once he's started eating?
- Can you get DP to do the mornings for a while to get DS used to a morning routine that doesn't involve BF?
- "Is there any way I can distract him from feeding when he sees me come home?" Maybe a total long-shot but could you ring ahead and your nanny bring DS to meet you at the end of the road, make a big fuss of him and when you get home go straight to do something you know he really enjoys?
I'm not suggesting you try all of them at once! Just hoping something might help?
I had to wean completely before my period came back. We did this just before Christmas last year and I got my first period 4 weeks after. Do try maybe cutting down feeds as that could be enough to kick start your periods.... ?
Ooh it could work. I think cold EBM is ok because the taste is familiar, but cold and a different taste might be a bridge too far!
It is an emotional situation you are in, longing for a second child weighed up against what you think is best for an existing child.
Lost will he drink it warmed? I'm guessing you have probably tried that, but just in case
Just remembered that dd wouldn't accept cows milk as a replacement to boob but would accept chocolate milkshake (made with a half teaspoon of powder and cows milk). Not the healthiest replacement I know, but she will now drink cows milk plain after I weaned her off the choc milkshake
By the age he is now it is the actual feeding from you that is the comfort thing. He will be just fine while you are out
What I did with both of mine was get them used to cows milk in a cup mid-afternoon from around a year old. And when we are out I always have some milk in a beaker and a piece of fruit for DS2 if he gets hungry.
From personal experience, my body needed to see a regular 8-10 hour gap between a feed most days before my periods returned.
That sounds like a good idea.
"don't want to leave him without his usual source of comfort"
BFing is more than the actual milk. His comfort comes from the act of feeding, as much as the milk.
If he finds expressed milk comforting he'll likely find cows or other forms of milk as comforting when you're not there.
My periods came back about 4 months after DS dropped down to have a night feed only (I was 38 too). He was about 2 yo when they restarted.
Hi OP, I breastfed ds1 till 16 months, then mine came back about a month later. Then with ds2 I breastfed him till he was 4 and a half and went to school. They came back at 28 months - when he was 2 and 4 months.
I was still feeding him quite a bit at that stage.
Fwiw mine are normally regular, even short cycles, eg 24 days etc. So it doesn't mean you're weird or infertaile if your periods are still AWOL.
Good luck x
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