(Sorry if this is long) Firstly, I'm PG with DC2 and DC1 is only 4.5 months old - he will be 13 months when DC2 is born.
When I was PG with DC1, I tried to prepare for BFing - attending antenatel BFing sessions, etc.
After a long and traumatic birth, my milk didn't come in and because DS was quite small, this led to him being rushed to A&E at 3 days old where he remained on the children's ward, unconcious and ill, for 3 days. I'll be honest, watching my son looking so tiny and poorly with drips in both hands, I would have given up BFing, but the lovely nurses brought me a breast pump and after 2 days, I got milk.
Then, on the third day, my son suddenly woke up - I walked to him (still attached to pump) and he stared at my boob (in the pump) and cried. It was almost as beautiful as first meeting him - I lifted him to my boob shoved it in his gob and he fed from me. I cried in happiness - this was how motherhood was meant to be.
So a story should end. But. When we got home, problems started to form. He got harder and harder to latch, but worst of all he slipped it regularly, leading to it taking 2 hours for him to get 5 minutes of actual sucking. A midwife spotted a tongue tie and my (lovely) peer-supporter refered me to get it cut. Unfortunately, the appointment was in 12 weeks time. Trouble was, every feed was getting worse not better. In the end, at 2 weeks old, he was slipping his latch almost immediately (after half an hour of getting him latched). By now my nipples were bleeding and I was having to top up with expressed after every feed. My peer-supporter helped me to use nipple shields and he fed perfectly for one day, but then my supply dropped and I had to start topping up with formula as well as expressed. By now my only option was to buy an electric pump and express every feed for 12 weeks, but I was suffering from PND and the bond between DS and I was in pieces. It was time to move on.
So... DS has been EFF ever since, but I really do want to BF DC2 because a) I know the benefits of breastfeeding b) because that moment in hospital was utterly, utterly beautiful and it felt right - it is what I want for my child.
My questions then - how do I manage to BF when I have a 13 month old? How do I get past my fears from the experience above? What do I do if the same happens again? And - what can I do, antenately to prepare, because I now know from my BFing friends that the antenatel groups I attended were useless?
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Purplelooby · 16/01/2013 21:15
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